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Jody
Just Said Yes October 2016

Same location for Ceremony & Reception - Invitation Wording Question

Jody, on July 28, 2016 at 6:01 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13

Hi. I'm the bride. Our casual, non-traditional wedding is at my parents house on a dock at sunset. Approx 80 guests. We are doing cocktails and appetizers at 6pm and then the ceremony will be at 7pm. Dinner and dancing to follow.

So on the invitations (that I already ordered), I simply put the time as "6 o'clock". And then I put "dinner and dancing immediately following short ceremony."

My mom seems to think that's misleading and I need to change the time to specifically read

"Cocktails from 6-7, ceremony at 7pm" in fear of people arriving prior to 6pm and that the guests "would be standing around for too long thinking that the ceremony was at 6pm."

To me, 6pm-7pm is our time for us to enjoy appetizers, drinks & socialize with our guests so they won't really be standing around.

Do I really need to change the invitations? And if so, can I get by with adding a small insert of some sort specifically stating those times?

Thanks a bunch for your help! Smiley smile

13 Comments

Latest activity by Jacky, on July 28, 2016 at 8:32 PM
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    Beginner May 2017
    Hannah ·
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    I think saying 6 was the right choice, it gives all the "late comers" time to show up and not miss any of the ceremony! With 80 people there will be late comers for sure!

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  • Kels
    Master August 2016
    Kels ·
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    I would put

    " Please join us for a cocktail from 6-7pm.

    Our Ceremony begins at 7pm with dinner and dancing to follow"

    Or something like that. It's nice to be clear with people to set expectations.

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  • OurAdventureBegins
    VIP October 2016
    OurAdventureBegins ·
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    Don't change the invitations, your original wording is fine. People don't need an itinerary- they just need to know when to be where. I would prepare for guests to start arriving at 5:40 or so just because traditionally, the ceremony time is listed and people don't want to be late.

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  • xray12280
    Master June 2017
    xray12280 ·
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    I could see how this would be confusing for guests since guests typically arrive 1/2 or more early for a ceremony. If you can't change the invite I would make sure it is clear on your website(if you have one) or make a sign with the timeline that your guests would see as they arrive.

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  • Scarlett10is
    Dedicated June 2016
    Scarlett10is ·
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    That isn't a compelling reason to change what you already have. Just put up a chalkboard schedule at the entry point for guests so they know to grab a drink and mingle before moving into place for your ceremony at 7. You could print this on a program too if you really want Smiley smile

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  • JPL
    VIP March 2017
    JPL ·
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    I agree with Kels.^^ I think that's something that people would like to know ahead of time.

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  • prisandbigfootsbuddy
    Super March 2017
    prisandbigfootsbuddy ·
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    To me it does not sound misleading. If you want to be more specific consider creating a wedding website and including the website on the invitation. You can use a business card size insert with the url. I would not change the invites over this.

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    Master January 2017
    SnowQueen ·
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    If you have a website I would put that information on there since you already order the invitations.

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  • Jody
    Just Said Yes October 2016
    Jody ·
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    Thank you so much everyone! Its been really helpful. What I think I might do is just add the time details onto my online RSVP system so each guest will receive it upon RSVP'ing and then also do a chalkboard at the front entrance so they know what's ahead. Smiley smile

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    I mean, if you have tables and chairs set out, I don't think it's that big a deal, so long as people can have a seat. If they're going to be literally standing around, I think they need to be told.

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  • Kristen
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    Kristen ·
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    6 was the right choice. However you might add an insert about the timeline or you could have a program sign at the ceremony stating the timeline so they don't think you're running late.

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  • Isheefishee
    Expert June 2017
    Isheefishee ·
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    If I got the invite, I'd be there 15 mins before 6 thinking it was the ceremony. But as long as I had a drink in hand, wouldn't mind waiting for the ceremony!

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  • Jacky
    Master June 2017
    Jacky ·
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    The only hour that should be in the wedding invitation is the ceremony start time, so that your guests know what time to arrive at your wedding. There shouldn't be an itinerary on it. Guests will know what's going on after they arrive. ETA: so the wording that you have on your invitations is just fine.

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