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Same family two weddings

kia, on February 13, 2017 at 8:53 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 14
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Ok so I need some advice on this. My wedding is Sept 10 and I just found out my nephew is getting married Aug 27. That's 12 days before my wedding. Im sure they didn't remember I told them im getting married in sept. But im still a little iratated about it. Plus I'm trying to take the high road but I can be very competitive. How do I handle this gracefully.

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Latest activity by kia, on February 13, 2017 at 9:43 AM
  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
    MrsSki ·
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    Don't be competitive. Be happy for them! They get one day, and you get one day.

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
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    You handle it gracefully because there is no reason to do so otherwise.

    Remind yourself you get one day.

    And please change your avatar.

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    Let it go and be happy for them; you get one day. That's how you go about it gracefully.

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  • FME
    Master March 2018
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    I don't think this is a big deal, it's your nephew and it's weeks before. My nephew is getting married 3/24 and me 3/3 and we're totally cool with it. It's not a competition. This sounds like a very bridezilla thing to complain about.

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  • KYbride
    Expert September 2016
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    Last year, my cousin got married on August 26 and I got married on September 10. Some of the out of town family members obviously couldn't make it to both, but everything turned out okay. No one complained about the two weddings or anything. My cousin and I took it as an opportunity to bond and talk about wedding plans together.

    You get one day. Let it go.

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  • ODL
    Expert September 2017
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    I'm also getting married on September 10th. After we chose this date and had our venue and all our vendors booked, my mom told me my sister is planning a vow renewal for September 9th. Yea. One day before. I don't think it's in stone or anything. I haven't heard anything more about it. But even if she did, It wouldn't bother me. All of our family is local so it's really up to them if they want to go to 2 big events in one weekend. It won't bother me either way, I will still have my big day and a honeymoon to follow. Enjoy your one day. There's plenty of time between yours and his days.

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  • Bee
    Master April 2017
    Bee ·
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    Let it go. Its 12 days apart and you'll still get the one day you're entitled to.

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  • Jillian
    Master June 2019
    Jillian ·
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    This is far enough where you shouldn't be bothered.

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  • R&B2016
    VIP October 2016
    R&B2016 ·
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    You get one day, that's it!

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  • Celia Milton
    October 2020
    Celia Milton ·
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    Weddings are not competitions, whether they're weeks or years apart. They are stand alone events.

    Plan your day (that would be one) and let them plan theirs.

    Everyone wins.

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  • SageTree
    Super July 2017
    SageTree ·
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    I agree with PPs, however, I know that my family is very scattered and all out of town. My cousin got engaged awhile back and set his date for end of April; he lives on the east coast. My FH and I got engaged a year later and set our date 3 months after them, and we are in the Midwest. FH and I both spoke with my cousin and the rest of the family before fully booking because we didn't want to burden our family with traveling to two weddings as they all live in NJ or the south. Our family is very close, and neither my cousin and I could imagine our days without our family.

    I don't think what your nephew did is wrong, and I would definitely let it go, but I know that I'd feel upset if family couldn't make it.

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  • K
    Beginner September 2017
    kia ·
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    I know I guess I'm being silly. It's just that my family is from Trinidad. So traveling twice within 2weeks will be very expensive. I just really want everyone there.

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  • K
    Beginner September 2017
    kia ·
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    Thank you @Sagetree I disn't want my family to have to choose.

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  • K
    Beginner September 2017
    kia ·
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    Lol @Nonna I'm so bad with that kinda stuff. I'm electronically challenged????

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