Same Bride - Different Groom - Same Guests

I would say invite them and give them the option to see it for a 3rd time! Who knows, they might want to!

Own it! I would invite them. If they don't want to come, they probably won't.

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Most of them said they want to. The problem is me not wanting to invite them! LOL

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I have owned it Allie. Third times the charm. THis is it!! LOL I just don't want to see the same faces. I would rather do a destination wedding. Then I know a lot of people won't show up! LBVS

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It is technically my FH's 3rd time being married as well. I was up for elopement but surprisingly he wanted the full deal with family and all. Is your FH willing to do a destination wedding?

I would say if they came to the first two they obviously love you and want to share in your happiness. I would invite them and leave it up to them to come or not. I can totally understand where you're coming from though. It's our second marriage too

I would definitely suggest inviting them. I have an aunt who married for a 4th time this past year. Of her 4 husbands I was closest to her first (I didn't attend their wedding because I wasn't born yet) and her 4th. I didn't attend the second or third wedding but did attend the 4th and my relationship with him as an uncle is much closer than the second and third husband (and I met the 4th AT THE WEDDING). I'll be honest I don't even remember the 3rd husband's name. Also, one of the ex's sisters was in your predicament. Her 3rd wedding but her husband's first so his family definitely wanted the bigger wedding. They did a small destination wedding that his family attended but her side of the family did not attend (not even her parents). They did a big family backyard reception later that year that both sides of the family attended and met each other but was very low key. It fit both the bride and groom needs.

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No Allie. That's not an option. His mom is sickly and unable to travel so a local wedding it is. I'm fine with it now. I just have to get a handle on this guest list because I don't want to go over 175 and we're at 163 and he keeps adding people! LOL It will work out. I know it will.

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Thanks Laura. That seems to be the consensus here. Congrats!

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I wish that could be an option. We've paid for the venue which is a minimum of 170 but it looks like we may be at the 200 mark before this is over.

I would certainly hope they'd want to see you get married even if it is the 3rd time. However, no one expects to go to City Hall with you and if you pick a destination far enough away, they won't be able to. But let me ask, are you just making this choice because it's your 3rd or do you really and truly want it to be just the two of you and/or very immediate family?

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I guess you could say it's a little bit of both. I know his family is really excited and truth be told mine is too. We've been together for a long time. But I would really like to have our closest family and friends instead of extended ones. I appreciate all of the feedback because this is really a place for me to vent. And it gives me the opportunity to look at other view points so I can make sense of it all. It will work out. I know it will. Thank you for your input.