Sadness leading up to original date

I know this feeling I am about a month away from my date I am still getting legally married in my backyard but I have been very sad about the fact that it wasn’t the way we planned and it’s not about the place it’s about the people that I wanted to share this with. I’ve just been processing my emotions as much as possible and since you moved your date I would encourage you to do something fun to honor your original date that day whatever makes you happy so that it’s still looked at as a happy day and a day to honor and not a sad one.

I’m 2 weeks out from my original date and just trying to focus on the positive. Our new date is officially a “go”. And I’m looking forward to the joy and celebrations ahead.

We’re having a super small ceremony on Friday the 19th (our original date) with our big wedding/celebration postponed to next summer as well.


I literally chose the weekend for the same exact reason-my dad passed away 3 years ago and it felt right doing it Father’s Day weekend. Even though we’re having our small ceremony, I have been super sad. I don’t feel like a bride and I’m super stressed about everything I have to get done because I’m getting no help and my in-laws decided last minute that they need to fly in from California.
I think acknowledging your feelings is super important. Something I do for Father’s Day every year that always helps is to send cards to the father figures in my life.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I get it also. My future in-laws always seem to make the situation a little harder with their comments or actions. Thank you for saying this. I am really glad to know I am not the only one in this boat

I don't have any advice. i just wanted to send you virtual hugs and positive vibes

First off, I am so sorry for your loss! I can imagine that Father's Day is very difficult for you.

My FH and I were supposed to get married May 30th, and I was also dreading the day. My bridal shower was supposed to be in March and that had to be canceled too, but my FSIL suggested having a drive by shower on our original wedding date. It turned out lovely and I still got to see people that I would of seen at the wedding. But still, all week leading up to the date I was thinking about how different that week was supposed to be. Some people got me gifts with our original date on them because they purchased them before the wedding had to be postponed. That pulled at my heart strings a bit. I think letting yourself be sad and allowing yourself to feel all the feelings is key. It's a difficult time for everyone, including brides who have done so much planning, counting down, etc.

Thinking of you!

We stayed busy and distracted. I didn't want to think about it because it made me sad. We went to visit my FH's family and stayed busy with friends and family the whole weekend.

Definitely feel this!! Our date was 06/06/2020 and we had significance to our date too, (my grandpas birthday and his last round of chemo treatment) we took a mini isolation trip and rented an air bnb in the woods. I didn’t want to be around a lot of people and it was nice to get away from all the news for a few days. It definitely was worth it!! I felt so much better on the day of and am now looking forward to our new date. The toughest challenge I’m facing now is trying not to be salty about FSIL’s wedding going completely as planned in August. I’m in the wedding (she is in mine too) but it’s really hard to be happy for her given the challenges we had to face.


Sending you positivity! We will all get through this.

We had a special meal planned and went for a nice long drive. I surprisingly felt less stressed after the date passed because I had survived it once so everything from here on out can't be bad. My bridesmaids also surprised us with a visit with flowers snacks and other goodies!

My wedding was set for June 20, 20. And now it's June 2021. I was fine but this week has been really difficult for me too. Everything has brought me to tears for no reason. I've been upbeat and positive about it with family and friends but I just can't this week. I'm picking up my dress tomorrow, not allowed to try it on in the store (if you're buying a dress you can go in, but if you've paid they don't want to waist time on you). It encouraging to know it gets better after the date passes.

My wedding was set for June 20, 20. And now it's June 2021. I was fine but this week has been really difficult for me too. Everything has brought me to tears for no reason. I've been upbeat and positive about it with family and friends but I just can't this week. I'm picking up my dress tomorrow, not allowed to try it on in the store (if you're buying a dress you can go in, but if you've paid they don't want to waist time on you). It encouraging to know it gets better after the date passes.

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Date twin! When is the new date in June 2021? We are 6/12/2021 now. I feel you about the tears - I even got teary-eyed watching Schitt's Creek. I also find that unless you are in it people do not understand and they don't get the sadness, which is especially frustrating when it comes from a bride who didn't have to worry about any of it! I am picking my dress up on Monday since I actively avoided picking it up today because I knew it would be way too hard. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow!

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I'm set for 6/19/21 but it's not official until my venue reopens and updates the contracts. I feel better now that the old date has passed. It was really sad picking up my dress, but I was able to have it shipped to my MIL so I don't have it looming over me. I also unfollowed a lot of bridal accounts on IG since most of my decisions are already made. That's probably helped the most. Day of we just had a social distant picnic and with some friends and it felt normal

How did your dress pickup go?