Sad that his siblings and father aren’t coming

This is a second wedding for my FH and me. We have dated for over four years. FH has a twin sister and three older siblings. They are all fairly close, talk pretty regularly. I have met all but one brother and they all seem to like me and approve of our relationship.

FH’s father is alive (early 80’s) and lives in a nursing home near where his twin sister lives.

We let all his siblings know as soon as we had a date picked, which was about 11 months before the wedding.

Not a single one is coming. 😢😢😢😢

FH’s twin said that she and her husband had already made plans to celebrate their own wedding anniversary. No airfare involved, just a hotel booked. I right away suggested that they make the trip to our wedding be their anniversary celebration. She said no, they had already made a non-refundable deposit.

Oldest brother is a pastor and we asked him to officiate. Granted, he lives in South Korea. But he typically comes home to the states every year or two, and our wedding would be two years since he’s been home. He said no to officiating and attending. Said he couldn’t afford.

Second brother lives in TX (we are in IL). He said he couldn’t afford time off work or to travel.

Lastly, his oldest sister lives about 3 hours from us. She could drive here and back if she wanted to (we have done the same MANY times to go to family events where she is.). She said she is going in October to see twin sister and father and she can’t afford both trips. (But we told you the dates 11 months ago?!?!)

I’m sad and angry and confused and I am having a hard time accepting this. :-(