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Justine
Just Said Yes October 2020

Sacrament of Marriage

Justine, on June 4, 2020 at 9:42 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
I had to postpone my wedding reception due to covid. It was going to be on October 31st, but since my family and friends have to travel from other country, and most of them won't comen to the States, I decided to cancel. Travel restrictions still changing, and most of them couldn't have their visa and wouldn't have it in time(all offices are closed with no specific date to reopen). Also I have some close friends that are actually infected with the Covid in the country they live, and some family members passed away because of this horrible pandemic. I really don't want to put anybody at risk.


We are getting married by catholic church, and we just talked to the priest to explain our situation, and that we decided to cancel that date. He still tried to convince us to keep on with the ceremony, as we are just civilly married, we are not actually married for the Church, and he could just marry us with a couple of witnesses. He also explain the importance of the sacrament of marriage. I understand the priest point, and that he gave his opinion on behalf of the church.
But I still feel I uneasy about it, IDK, it is important to me to share this moment with my family and friends, not even my parents are able to come. I have a few aunts (2), and my mother in law, in the that are trying to insist to do the wedding this year, with just few people attending the ceremony. Is not for the party, is for the actual ceremony that I want to share with my parents, and I know my mom would be heartbroken if she is not there. My husband supports whatever decision I make.
So what are your points of view into this spiritual matter? I mean, is not that we don't want to, is just that we do not put anybody at risk, and we want to share this with our love ones. How important is this spiritual matter to you?

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Latest activity by Taylor, on June 5, 2020 at 10:01 AM
  • Justine
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Justine ·
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    SORRY FOR THE TITLE, IT IS SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE!! I POSTED IT BEFORE I COULD CHECK WHAT MY AUTOCORRECT MODE DID. SORRY FOR ANY MISSPELLING.
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
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    Hi Justine, I’m so sorry to hear about your situation and so very sorry to hear of your loved ones who have passed. My heart goes out to you. We also postponed our wedding from June to August 2020 in hopes it will be safe. I think you made the right decision as I would want my parents to be there too. It is my belief God knows your heart and wants you to be happy with your parents and your loved ones present. Your new date, whenever you decide, may be joyous, safe, and full of happiness! I would make the same decision if I was in your shoes. Glad your husband is supportive and anyone who may disagree will come to understand you will marry in the church when your parents can safely travel and be there. Sending strength and good thoughts to you!! 🙏🏻🌹❤️
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  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
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    I’m so sorry for how this terrible disease has affected you.
    I’m a baptist and I guess I look at it a little differently. I’m not sure that I agree with your priest in that just a civil ceremony means you’re not married before God.
    I’ll still say the spiritual aspects of marriage and a wedding are super super important to me. Marriage was created and instituted by God. It is us coming together under God, making a covenant to one another. But guess what, God sees in the courthouse, too.
    Before you mentioned your parents couldn’t attend, I was going to suggest having the church wedding live-streamed on Zoom or something, but Mama is a different story. I couldn’t not have my mama at my wedding.
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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2021
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    Seeing as you are legally married, could you return to your home country (when travel restrictions lift), to have the religious ceremony there? This could help with the visa situation and those who are more fragile could also participate.
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
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    I was raised in a traditional Christian home, but not Catholic. I'm not sure I agree that God isn't present during a civil ceremony and therefore you aren't religiously married. I would say that's kind of a "cop out" and really you are married, both before the state and the church. I'm not sure why he's pushing you, but if you're at all uncomfy with it, don't do it. I know personally I could not get married without my mom present. I know I wouldn't go through with it. She's my best friend and I need her there for that.

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  • Maria
    Dedicated April 2021
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    For me the spiritual part is so important too, but is also important Share that with my love ones so honestly if I were you, I would change the date, God knows that you’re not doing anything wrong, you are protecting and taking care of your family!
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
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    I'm not Catholic nor did I have a religious wedding, but if being married in a Catholic church is important to you and having your famt there then I would postpone your wedding until it is safe for your family to travel.
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  • Taylor
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I am Catholic and my priest said the same thing to me. Marriage is one of the sacraments and its just a fact the church wont recognize the marriage. It also can cause issues when it comes to baptizing your future babies. I am not getting married in the catholic church either although I am catholic and many of my catholic friends that are catholic are not either. My mom isn’t thrilled but I want my dog in my wedding and the church wont allow it. I love being catholic but I disagree that god isn’t present in a civil union. My priest did say that possibly they would baptize future kids if we agree to raise them as catholic. If we want the church to recognize our marriage we would have to go through the entire precana. Ugh good luck but I couldn't have a ceremony without my mom there. Especially if it would break her heart. Go with your gut. Sounds like you already know the answer.
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