Runaway Bride?

I think you should sit down with your fiancé and voice all of this to him. This marriage is about the two of you and no one else. You should detail what is important to the two of you, set a budget, and decide what you want from there. Marriage and relationships are about compromise.

Sounds like the event is out of your budget. It might be easier to cancel and plan something that you can afford comfortably. It's all great to want all the wedding things, but you have to be able to afford them. I hope things work out for you!

Just elope and you all can have the wedding that he wants when he able to contribute. Weddings are expensive even with a small guest list. Instead of paying for a wedding right now - go to the courthouse and maybe spend a portion of the money that you would spend right now on a small vacation/honeymoon

Even if everything else about your relationship was perfect, this is not a good way to start out your marriage and the rest of your lives together. I absolutely understand people who say they want the "real" wedding, but sometimes financial realities are... the reality. If this man truly wants to be married to you, he will marry you at a courthouse, or elope elsewhere. Maybe you can save for a few years and have a big party and/or vow renewal later!

I hope everything works out for you. Sending love and good vibes.

Hi Randee,

Sorry to hear that you are going through this. I know that sometimes, just writing as a means to expression your feelings can be a good outlet for stress relief. I can empathize with your buyer's remorse about opting in for a "real wedding" that your Fiance wanted. I took the same train too. Two Years later, here I am having planned the majority of it myself and feeling completely miserable about the entire process. One word of advice to my former self would have been elope. My wedding is in less than 2 weeks, so no backing out of plans now lol.

I have to agree with the other posters here. It seems all of the emotions that you are feeling are a symptom of some relational issues with your fiance that may stem from a lack of communication and boundaries. I would encourage you to speak with them ultimately and get them more on board with planning, and the financial aspect of the wedding. This is really a two person job. If money is a factor, then there is always elopement. Looking back a few months ago, I probably would have gotten out of the few contracts that I could have knowing what I know now and just eloped myself.

If you find that you want to continue with you plans there are always ways to stretch your budget. There isn't one specific type of Wedding Dress. Any dress can be a Wedding Dress. In fact, I purchased mine of of lulus for $75.00. If you can get your fiance on board with finances, and are within your cancellation time, scrap the DJ. We rented a speaker for $150.00 and created spotify & itunes playlists for music. Opt for a suit for the groom rather than a tux. Suits can be rented for fairly cheap. Also I'm sure your daughter would look just lovely in anything! You may be able to catch a late summer sale at JCPENNY or an outlet for dresses.

Weddings can work within any budget. It's all about give and take. When faced with adversity we really need to dig deep into why we're having opposing second thoughts. Is it really due to budget constraints or might you be feeling like you've been abandoned by your partner in the process? I know that planning this wedding has definitely taught me a lot about myself, my fiance, and how we work together as a team.

I hope I contributed a bit of insight that you may have been looking for!

Best