Rules for bridesmaid + 1 after break up?

This is strange. Lol.
I have a bridesmaid who, if she breaks up with her SO (I'm hoping he's wonderful and they live happily ever after, as he's from England and I haven't met him.) She's absolutely still allowed to bring a plus one. Whether it's a sorority sister, travel buddy, or one night stand. But still bringing the ex? Seems so strange. Why does he want to come, and why does she still want him to?
I'm pretty laid back and kinda plan to let my bridesmaids do almost whatever they want. If you dont think it will end with her crying hysterically over his lifeless body after she hits him over the head with a bottle of tequila for trying to hook up with your cousin, I'd say go for it. Might just be easier.

She should be able to bring someone else. I mean I don't imagine the boyfriend would want to go if he doesn't know you.

Ex boyfriend** I would consider it moreso he was her plus one but that she still gets a plus one

I think the only golden rule would be to keep everything the way it is. If she wants to bring him then that's really all that matters to be honest.

If I were her, I would tell him to get lost. The fact that she isn't telling him its not her problem and checking with you, makes me believe there might be hope for reconciliation. 🤷‍♀️ I'd say to let him come. Your friend isn't really doing anything wrong by bringing him.

No, you’ve never met him and they broke up. While inconvenient, you can definitely tell her “I’m sorry but I’m just not comfortable with that, with everything going on with you two, won’t that be a little distracting? I’ve never met him, his invitation was only extended for you, without that connection it just doesn’t make sense that he would even want to come, I’m not sure why he isn’t just considering the ticket a wash.” (reading it seems like a harsh tone, say it with kindness of course.) Let her know you dont mind if she brings someone else (if you dont mind ofc), but you’re not super comfortable with her bringing her ex. Mention some fun day trip things in the area, tell her if he still wants to use his ticket theres a bunch he can do around your area.

It doesn’t sound like she’s worried about there being issues, so I’d just let him come since you were already planning on him being there.

If I were her, I'd bring a different date. But I mean if he paid for his ticket and the breakup wasn't bad why not? I don't think she'd bring him if there is a chance he'd be a problem.

I'd tell her to bring someone else because I wouldn't want a random guy there.

I would just let him come, it’s her situation to deal with and you don’t seem to have any preference either way

View Quoted Comment I just spit out my coffee at your last paragraph. Well played.

Technically he was invited, and he still is. Sure, it's awkward, but it was probably going to be at least a little awkward regardless since you haven't met him. I get that he doesn't want to lose the cost of the airfare, so I'd try to make it clear that he's welcome to do as he wishes, but I'd also set a deadline for him to commit so your bridesmaid can bring another plus one if he backs out.

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Hahahaha this is too funny.

If those two are fine with it, and there won't be any problems, then I'd be okay with it. ONe of my bridesmaids was married to one of the groomsmen but divorced shortly after we got engaged. Both are fine with being there but apart. Technically both have the option for a date but they both declined to be respectful.

If they’re fine with it, it doesn’t seem like your problem to worry about. You invited him, I’d just let him come.