Rule of thumb for who not/to invite?

If you don't see or talk to them regularly, I wouldn't invite them....-especially- if you're trying to cut costs. And just because you were invited to someone's wedding does not mean you have to reciprocate the invitation.

So in this case, I probably wouldn't invite the manager or the couple.

I wouldn't invite either of the people you mentioned.

I decided not to invite people I have not spoken to in a year. I cut out all but two second cousins (I have a big family). I did not invite anyone just because I went to their wedding, and I didn't invite coworkers.

I'd cut both of those you listed... never feel obligated to invite a couple just because they invited you to theirs. Especially if you haven't talked. Old manager/work mom is tough but because you haven't seen or talked to her, cut her.

Is their number in your phone? Have you seen or talked to them in the last three months? Do you like them? Do you know if they have a s/o (if not, you don't know them well enough any more).

Weddings are not family reunions, they are not a way to pay back obligations. They are, in theory, a milestone, life changing experience shared with your nearest and dearest.

Between the couple and the manager, I would not invite the couple if you do not associate with them. The fact that you attended someone's wedding does not mean they must be guests at yours. You have not talked to them since Fall and by Fall 2017 I doubt it will be any different.

I would first ask your family as to who they would like to invite, cut that list down, then see if there is still any room for the couple and/or your former manager. Mainly because I'm sure you may encounter some static with your family when trying to cut their list down and you don't know how many they would like to invite. Alternatively, you can give your families a set number of invitees to include.

If you dont see or talk to them regularly then i would cut them.

Http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/16/funny-wedding-video_n_4613186.html I always bring this back

If you are looking to make cuts and you are questioning these guests than it seems to me they didn't make the cut.

@Celia Milton, yeah, the "they paid for us" was the thought that FH had. But I think he gets where I'm coming from.

@PandaPlease, that's a very helpful thought. I might work with that and go from there. Thanks!

@Mrs. Fall Bride, there some incidents/disagreements that happened (one, a couple months before I moved out and the other the day I moved out) that made the relationship with the now-wife more and more strained. I tried to reach out but she seemed disinterested. I guess I worry about making her/them mad, but I don't really talk to any of that group anymore (just friends on facebook) so it's just me trying to make people happy.

Another version of Elphaba's chart.

Family wise, I'm planning on parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts/uncles/cousins. All of my family is out of town, and most of them are wayyy out of the way, so they might not all come (but i'm also the first in my family to be married, so they might).

His family has a few more stragglers (outside of the people I just said), most/all of whom I've met and are nice people - but I don't know where the line is for that.