Rudest things said to bride & groom?!

View Quoted Comment Omg! That was uncalled for. How the heck would they know you're in debt unless you told them. That was rude to assume.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I've been noticing that's the norm

View Quoted Comment Dang, ppl are so nosey in couples' reproduction

View Quoted Comment Right! Not anyone's business unless they know from past experiences that they'll be picking up the tab lol

View Quoted Comment Woah! I wouldn't suggest a potluck to a bride unless I knew she was expecting me to pick up the venue tab lol

View Quoted Comment Oh no. How unfortunate. Your sister should have picked a better time and place and changed her approach if she was genuinely concerned about you getting married. And she should have had valid points that drew concern such as if your fiance was unemployed or if he had a drug and/or alcohol addiction.

View Quoted Comment Oh girl, I could feel the eye roll. Lol

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Yeah, it certainly was nothing about being concerned. It was simply jealousy that I was in a successful, long-term relationship. She still takes jabs at us to this day, and we've been married almost two decades and my husband has successfully started four businesses and helped to put me through both medical school and engineering school (and doesn't drink or do drugs and never has - I'd never put up with drugs or alcohol.) She's just a very jealous, hateful person, and can't stand seeing me happy or "doing better" than her as she perceives it.

Also on all the kids comments... yep, that started right after we got married, intensified around year 3, then it cooled off a bit, then it intensified HUGELY at year 7. After year 10, it changed from "WHEN ARE YOU HAVING KIDS?" (or my favorite, as I was once told, "NO KIDS?? You better catch up!") to "you really aren't having kids?" and now that we're approaching the arbitrary biological clock cut off of our mid-to-late 30s, it has again intensified and turned into "aren't you scared you're going to regret not having them?" Nope.

I’ve gotten this so many times: ...“if I were you, I would just get married!” - says someone who got to have their perfect wedding pre-covid times.

View Quoted Comment Yeah it’s weird. I think if may be because my close friends remember that I had a rough time financially after my divorce and had to work hard to keep my head above water. But that was a while ago, things are different now and we aren’t going into debt at all.
I just can not imagine the nightmare! I told one person that I am not inviting people to cross the Atlantic for a pot luck LOL

The biggest ones I get all the time from people is the question "why would you want to get married, why would you want to be legally bound to someone?" and the "Divorce isn't cheap or easy and eventually everyone ends up divorced you know?" or the "you know people weren't created to be bound to just one person forever, that's why relationships and marriage never work"

View Quoted Comment Right! I would reply "well, you're not me!"

View Quoted Comment Woah that is crazy! Wouldn't imagine saying that to someone.

I've had numerous people ask for their invites to which I ignored them or let them down gently because anyone who we were planning to invite didn't have to ask this question. I think it is SO weird to invite yourself to someone's wedding KNOWING you haven't seen or talked to them and that you're not that close. My future in-laws have mentioned the cost and my future MIL even went so far as to say to my FH "You know as the groom you're supposed to reel in the bride, right?" He put her in her place and told her never to say anything like that to him about me again. Considering that we're paying for it ourselves, she was WAY out of line.

View Quoted Comment Yea I never before getting engaged every thought people would say that. Once I got engaged I heard those 3 things the most from people. None of the people who have made those remarks are coming to the wedding, they're all mostly just coworkers and friends of friends who have said those things.

So far the worst has been about our kid-free reception. They're welcome at the ceremony but not the reception, and we're using our own money to provide childcare during the reception so even people who otherwise may not have been able to find someone to watch their kids, or are coming in from out of town, don't have to stress about it and we get the kid-free reception we want. The best man and his wife have a daughter (5, maybe 6 - I don't know when her birthday is...) and plans to bring her. When my fiance said that we'll have childcare during the reception he said, "We won't need that." Our wedding is an early afternoon wedding and the reception ends at 6:30. They live about 3 hours away, so even if they won't have a hotel room that night they definitely don't need to leave immediately after the ceremony. Admittedly I don't know exactly what he meant by this, but it certainly sounds like they plan to have their daughter with them at the reception. If that's the case, then I find it exceedingly rude that they think it's okay to go against our wishes for a child-free reception when we are paying for their childcare - something we are absolutely in no way obligated to do. I've only met them once, but they are genuinely wonderful people from everything I've seen and experienced. I really hope this is just a case of not understanding the full context since I wasn't present for the conversation. If not, FH is going to have to have a heart to heart with him about it.

View Quoted Comment "For the record, in the time I've been married to my husband, she's been through six marriages. Definitely the person who had some business telling me not to get married"
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL !!!!!!!!!!!
I CAN relate. A Bunch of beople who divorced at least once, including my parents, who give me and/or my fiancee some advices about keeping some traditions while we are planning, because we are ditching most (but not all) of them: my bride wants to walk down the aisle either alone or with me, no veil, no train on her dress,she even showed me the dress she picked (only on a hanger, did not see her wearing it), she will not dance with her dad ,I won't dance with my mom, no garter/bouquet toss , and so on . Don't know what we will do about a wedding party but If we have one, I'll only ask the two sisters i'm closest to, to be in it as my best woman and as my groomswoman, and no one else . Despite the fact these people didn't respect the two most important traditions : they all lived with their SO before their wedding and divorced ...

View Quoted Comment Wow! I agree, she was way out of line.

View Quoted Comment Yes! This is extremely common, unfortunately.

View Quoted Comment That's the best approach, to let FH deal with it. Thanks for your input