Rudeness/negativity during planning

Most mean well, but sometimes you must separate thyself from ye storm clouds, lol.

It really does bring out the best and worst in people, self and FH included! And most of the time, I don't think the person even realizes that they are doing it. Very rarely is it malicious intent where they are trying to make you feel bad - they just act cynical without thinking through the consequences. There's really nothing you can do other than to shake it off and focus on the people who graciously do want to be helpful.

EDIT: Even those who mean well can get out of control! FH's family has some serious stuff going down right now, so his mom is "controlling what she can" - meaning my wedding. Love her to death, love that she wants to help, but I also like being listened to ...

I can agree with pp... I think most people don't really realize what they are doing. To be honest I feel like it has brought out the best of Fh and I ... I love planning with him because we are both laid back and realistic take opinions and comments with a grain of salt after all its you and your Fh big day. The opinions of you two are all that matter

I think it brings out everyones craziness, myself included. I don't think people want you to be miserable unless they are miserable people themselves. Most family members get so excited that they overstep boundaries or bombard you with ideas (good and bad) because they want your day to be special.

Planning has brought FH and I closer together because of some of the drama his family is putting us through. Some of husky has dropped out of or wedding and has decided not to attend. And a lot of them won't even speak to us at this point. We've really taken a stand together. It's really shown some true colors of his family. It's weird that that has brought us closer but it really has

Thankfully I did not experience this!

Agreed our big thing is people telling us if so and so are there we are not going. I finally had to tell them I'm not sending a guest list in the invitations come celebrate with us or don't we don't care, letting go of the negativity has helped us get back to enjoying the planning

DH and I had waited 10 years to get married, so I got a lot of, "My friends married after (insert long time, here), and divorced in three months." I was never sure if they were trying to warn me, or if it's just more remarkable that people would divorce after dating a long time than after a short time.

I definitely agree- People just assume I want to hear their opinion and how my ideas are bad. Too bad I don't really care- If i had wanted their negative opinions, I would have asked.