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Champion July 2019
Veronica, on July 10, 2019 at 9:06 AM

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Last night I got a message from my fiance's "aunt" (she is actually just a good friend of my fmil) that she can no longer attend our wedding which is 10 days away. We are now having to pay for her to attend because we have a minimum on food and beverage and if we don't include her in our count then...
Last night I got a message from my fiance's "aunt" (she is actually just a good friend of my fmil) that she can no longer attend our wedding which is 10 days away. We are now having to pay for her to attend because we have a minimum on food and beverage and if we don't include her in our count then we will be under budget. It annoys me that we have to pay for someone that let us know last minute that her plans have changed. Her reasoning was that there is a problem she has to deal with that weekend which seems very strange to me. I already thought it was strange that her husband wasn't attending even though he was invited. I'm not sure I believe that she actually has a problem to deal with. Normally if there is a problem you don't wait to deal with it until 10 days later. I think something else came up that she would rather do. She also didn't tell my fmil which is also strange to me since they are really good friends. My fiance didn't care to invite her when we first started making our guest list, but my fmil insisted on us inviting her so honestly I think my fmil should pay for her friend that isn't attending since she wanted us to invite her. I told her she let us know last minute and she basically said oh well. My fmil's other friend might also be a last minute no show, but her reasoning is much more understandable. Her daughter-in-law is fighting cancer and she isn't doing well at all so I totally understand why she might not come.

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  • D
    Super July 2020
    D ·
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    Invite someone who can show up, against popular opinion. You mentioned a friend. Try it. Just say you worked it out last minute to invite people you weren't initially able to.
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  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
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    I would ask yourself if the cost of this one plate is really worth creating drama with a woman who will be around and a huge part of your life for years to come. It honestly doesn’t sound like it.

    Either invite someone else, or ask about adding a few additional pieces of passed apps to the ones already going out. Or ask about the venue perhaps boxing up a late night meal for you and your FH to take home with you at the end of the night.

    It it sounds like the problem isn’t that this woman isn’t coming, but that you aren’t meeting the minimum. You have 9 days, try to get creative!
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Problem solved! As we were walking into our venue today for our final meeting and my fiance's cousin called to see if he could bring a plus one after all. Originally he wasn't going to so his timing was perfect since today was the last day we could make small adjustments. They were fine with removing a chair from one table and adding a chair to another.
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