Rude to invite some family members and not others?

I do think in that instant it would be kind of weird not to . Will you at least have live streaming or anything like that ?

Couples should be invited as a social unit. If you are opting for no kids then you can get out of inviting her children, but it's considered rude to invite someone and not invite their significant other.

View Quoted Comment It would be an out of state wedding so we could possibly do live streaming but we really just wanted something small under 30 people on the beach before our honeymoon.

If you’re having no kids across the board that’s fine. But it would be rude to not invite significant others.

As the others have said, there's nothing wrong with excluding children, but you cannot invite one half of a couple unless there are extreme circumstances involved or the couple forms after the invitations have been sent. Wanting a small wedding is absolutely valid, but couples are a social unit, especially if they are married, living together, or have been together for a while. You absolutely should invite both your aunt and uncle. If someone were to invite me to a wedding and not my fiance, I would assume that person did not like him, be both hurt and offended, and I would not attend the wedding.

Ya that's pretty rude. It's one thing to not invite your obscure uncle Jerry who you last saw when you were 2 but you can't invite one person out of a family unit. Kids, sure, lots of people do kid-free weddings. But they're a couple - guests usually get a plus one, and hers is kinda permanent.
Would you feel like going to a wedding alone, knowing the couple just didn't want to shell out to feed your man?

You can get away with not inviting the children but if someone is married or even engaged you have to invite their significant other. That really makes people mad lol

Always invite married couples together. You can let her know that you are having an intimate wedding and cannot have the children there but it would be really rude to not invite her husband.

Well...i find it rude that her husband will not be invited!!! Especailly if your having guest bring a plus one. If you not then I guess it's not rude bc if you dont have the options of a plus one then that's the choice you made for your wedding!!! Weddings arent cheap so not everyone would be invited

I think it should be just fine after all it's your Wedding. I sure dont want to have kids running around my Wedding. There is a time and place for that.

Normally, couples should be invited together. Especially if they are married. You can opt for an adults only wedding, where there isn’t children. But up to you!

I think there is an exception to this rule if you’re doing it due to Covid Restrictions. We’ve had to make some cuts due to occupancy limitations for our venue so we’ve made it adults only and no +1’s for singles. However in the case of couples we are inviting spouses and SO’s.

Its not rude. If it is, I'm the most rude person ever because I only invited my mom, dad, and sister to ours! I have loads of extended family and step family too but they're not even welcome to watch the live feed of it.

If they are married, he would need to be invited as well. If he is an ex-husband, he can be skipped. If you are having an adult only wedding, the kids can be left off the guest list.

You could only invite her, but that’s odd not to invite her husband. Kids can be cut no issue.

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This isn't AT ALL what the OP is asking. It's absolutely fine to have a small ceremony with immediate family only (e.g., parents and siblings).

But excluding halves of couples is rude. OP wants to invite her aunt but exclude her uncle; that is not polite or advisable.

I would invite her and her husband and have a kids free event across the board. I would also offer to stream the wedding as well.

Don't invite your aunt if you won't invite her husband. But you need not invite either young children, or their grown kids.

I feel like it would be weird to exclude the husband too. Now I don’t know the family dynamics or children’s ages, but I know I’m inviting my great aunts and uncles, but I’m only inviting about 2 or 3 of their children. Note those cousins are grown with grown children as well, but I’m only inviting the family that have been involved in my life, thus my great aunts and uncles, because I felt like I saw them regularly at family gatherings and they take genuine interest in me, but only a few of the next generation has really done the same.

Though I can also say that there are a few of my church family whom I’m only inviting my friend and not their spouse because I’m pretty sure their spouse wouldn’t come anyway.