Rude remarks about my e-ring...

Ugh, so ridiculous! Do they realize it was the diamond companies who started it all and came up with the dollar amount to spend and their own advertising?! People are so materialistic! I'd definitely say something sassy back like "why would I upgrade" or "why do you think this is a starter ring" and make them uncomfortable. Call them out on it. I'm sure some are just jealous or bitter they aren't engaged.

DH went quality not quantity, which also makes a big difference. I could have gotten a stone twice the size if he had went for quantity. It's a beautiful, nearly perfect, .60 ct, cushion cut diamond with a halo and diamond band. I adore it! And he didn't go into debt. I couldn't imagine paying off a ring for years. That's just silly.

Oh, and the night he proposed, he mentioned about upgrading later. That made me sad that he didn't think it was enough. It was more than enough! That was the ring he proposed with and that's the ring I'm keeping. I feel bad for guys thinking they have to drain their life savings and go into debt to be a piece of jewelry.

Just goes to say how materialistic people see weddings now a days.

I like stephanie's comment too. Like all the other ladies with other stones than diamonds, people tell my my ring is beautiful, but then they realize it's and engagement ring and they get concerned about whether or not I'm making a right choice in a man based on the fact that I have a sapphire instead of a diamond. So I feel your pain.

Big rings aren't a lot to shout about, mine is larger and I'm constantly afraid of the gem popping out and getting snagged on things.

My own sister did this shit to me.

Her - "Let me see your ring"

Me - "I love it, he did such a great job"

Her - "It's nice..... you can always upgrade each year"

Me - ... (dead silence with a look)

WTF!!!! I dont want to upgrade. He picked out an amazing ring that I adore and if he ever wanted to trade it in, I'd be pissed.

As long as you love your ring that is all that matters. I just see those comments coming from unhappy, insecure people.

I would probably just mutter just loud enough for them to hear me "looks like SOMEONE didn't read Miss Manners/Emily Post!" Or something super patrionizing "aw, that's Cute of YOU to think that bling defines a relationship!"

Btw I don't even have a diamond so sometimes people make weird expressions but nobody has ever been that rude to me!!!

My mom said mine looked like a cocktail ring and expected more from me. My dream of a split shank with and emerald cut was dashed when I saw this vintage inspired beauty and I went with the oval cut. I got over her comments the next day and now make fun of her for it.

People astound me sometimes.

People are going to be rude no matter what and it's so much easier to tell them to suck it and keep being happy

Ugh that's soooo rude!!! I hate hearing "oh that's so cute" like its a puppy. Its BEAUTIFUL, gosh darn it!! Lol. FH said we could trade/upgrade but I absolutely love it. He picked it, and its honestly everything I could want!!

FH proposed with a tiny rubber band, so we went ring shopping together. He asked me beforehand if I had an idea of how much I wanted him to spend on it, and I flat out told him I didn't want him to spend very much. I'd rather that money go to the wedding or the house we intend to buy. When we got to the store I didn't like any of the traditional e-rings, and instead got a channel set ring with no center stone. The wedding band looks similar except it's smaller. I've gotten the "it's so dainty and delicate" a whole bunch of times. It's certainly not as fancy as other e-rings I've seen, but I love it. I'm not a fancy person, and I don't want to have to constantly be take my ring off to do the dishes or something. Also I have very teeny fingers. Everything looked way too big.

I have a friend who told me they went way over budget on her rings. Even her wedding band was $4000. She said she doesn't like wearing them because they're so flashy and get caught on everything, and would've preferred something more simple. That made me feel a lot better about the comments I got.

I love Miss P's suggestions for page one. They would really put them on the spot and make them think twice before opening their big mouths. Besides, your FI bought the ring for you and not them. All that matters is that YOU love it

One of the first things I asked my FH after we got engaged was, "Is the ring paid for?". He was smart and he only spent what he could pay for up front on my ring. Going into debt for a PIECE OF JEWELRY is ridiculous. Judging someone for what they and their FH could afford is unbelievable rude. Not to mention, who says you wanted a bigger diamond anyway??? Some people...

It doesn't matter if your eRing has a diamond or not, or if it is on the smaller or larger size, rude people will always be rude. I got a few "he did well, is it platinum? how many carats?" It took me by surprise the first few times but learned fast to say "I have no clue and it doesn't matter because I love it and it means a lot to me as it was a total surprise." It never crossed my mind that I "should" know how many carats it is and I certainly don't get the hype about platinum (I like silver and white gold, period).

I got the same type of comments. The worst was from my FH's aunt who I despise. I would get upset at first but then I just let it roll. I love it and FH got what was in his budget. Screw anyone else's opinion.

Well, here is the ring that is at the center of this post. Isn't it spectacular? I LOVE it!

And it is perfect for my stumpy fingers

:-)

@Soon2beMrsZ - I think it is beautiful. Do you smile every time you look at it? That's what it is really important. Just enjoy the moment and wedding planning and forget about people.

@2014AD, Platinum is basically just like silver in looks except that it is not as easy to bend as gold or silver (especially silver). I only wear silver-looking jewelry (silver, white gold (college ring), and platinum (high school ring at the time)) and was fully expecting a white gold engagement ring since I told him silver bends too easily. I was very happy when, after I said yes, he told me the stats of my ring and it was platinum! So it replaced my high school ring on my left hand and I know, through experience with all of the metals, that it won't lose its shape!