Rude photographer uncle

Later in the day, we're all dressed and ready and I'm getting some solo pictures done and some with the mom's and BMs. He shows up AGAIN and tries to take more pictures. My sister in law, whom I could tell was actually really annoyed about this, literally said to him, "No one is supposed to be seeing her right now! Please go wait for the ceremony". And escorted him out, but not before he snapped a few candid shots. Well, we thought that was the end of it. During the ceremony he was glued to our photographer, who spoke to him multiple times due to him getting in her way or getting in the way of shots. We could tell the poor woman was annoyed. He earned the nickname "Uncle Shutterbug". Well it's been almost 10 months since the wedding and we haven't seen any of the pictures. We've seen him multiple times and he's never even mentioned them. As annoyed as we were, we figured we'd at least get to see them at some point. One last comment and I'll be done.

We were wondering if it would be inappropriate to ask him to see the pictures. Like I said, we were annoyed, our photographer was annoyed, some guests even commented on him. But we haven't seen a single picture! My husbands mom told us to just let it go because "that's how he is", "no one ever sees his pictures", but we feel like he really invaded our day without even asking first. And then we don't even get to see any of the shots. We really just want to say, "So when donwe get to see the pictures?" But we still feel it's slightly inappropriate. We know we're not entitled to the pictures which is why we feel kinda weird. Any advice?

I'd be like Hey UNC! When are we going to see those pictures you were so eager to get at our wedding???

I would just let it go. It sounds like he was just doing this for himself and not you, especially since you and others told him you didn't want him taking pictures. In a way it seems you want your cake and you want to eat it too. You can't have it both ways. Enjoy your professional pictures and let him enjoy his.

I'd ask but prepared for him to say no. He may be embarrassed by his behavior or he may not be and be upset with you for shooing him away (even though you were in the right).

I think we just feel weird because we know that just because someone took pictures at ourwedding, that doesn't mean we're entitled to them. Like he never said they were for us to see, if that makes sense.

I'm sorry, that's annoying. A lot of H's family was trying to take photos while the photographer was taking family portraits and I was getting so annoyed. In a lot of the pro pics people are looking different ways because there's a million different cameras pointed at them. We also had one of my dads friends video the entire ceremony with his cell phone (which can be seen in several pictures) and I actually had my dad reach out and ask him for the video since our video failed and he said it was such bad quality it wasn't worth sending. Lolol okay.

Honestly i would probably guess the pictures aren't that great if he hasn't sent them and he was getting shooed away/people weren't looking at his camera. I mean I guess there's no harm in saying hey just wondering if we could see some of the shots you got. But since you already told him before and at the wedding that you didn't want him photographing I feel like you should just let it go. Especially since you have great pro pics!

Uhh, I'm that rude person who probably would have kicked him out when he barged in on me dressing and on me in my dress pre ceremony! Heck no! That's ridiculous and inappropriate as well as bad etiquette. I would definitely ask him. He was being rude and you handled it nicer than I would have.

Yeah, I mean we didn't discourage people from taking pictures, we welcomed it! We just didn't expect a guest to show up with their own complete set up of cameras, lenses, and flashes and follow the photographer around like he did. Threw us for a loop, that's for sure. I guess there's always one!

1. He's not a photographer, just a shit heel with a camera, clearly with no manners.

2. You made the right call hiring a pro.

3. Your sister in law rocks for escorting him out of the changing area.

4. He should have been asked to leave if he refused to stop. I don't care who he is.

5. The hired photographer could have forced her hand for him to stop, but shouldn't have had to. Refer back to 4.

6. I doubt you'd even want to see his photos. It would be a double standard anyway to not want him taking photos and then want to see them.

If his own sister told you no one ever sees his pictures, I wouldn't expect to see them. You can always casually mention the wedding and ask about the pictures, but I wouldn't hold my breath

That is obnoxious, I would have totally lost my cool.

#1 reason why we had an unplugged ceremony.

Actually, it was part of the professional photographers contract that we signed, guaranteeing that no one else would take photos, while they were. I'm sure they could write a book about obnoxious friends and relatives.

I wouldn't ask. Because if you do, that will be his excuse for why he has to interfere in your NEXT occasion to take photos even if you say no.

If someone messes with my awesome photographers' pictures during my wedding, when she's the most expensive cost for this whole thing, as well as my only 'fuck the budget' concession, I will be asking them to leave if I have to tell them more than once.

Just saying.

I would be furious in your situation and end up demanding the photos and telling him off after you have them. He does not have rights to your image and you don't know what he's doing with the pictures. Trying to promote himself as a wedding photographer maybe? He must have your consent to use your image on a website for example, and there have been lawsuits over things like this. If he just took the photos for himself to look at then that's super creepy. Put your foot down and demand the photos.

@Alforev, that would be fruitless, as he doesn't have to comply, and he'd still have them himself. Maybe. Either way, useless.

Maybe he was just pretending to take the photos just to be irritating.

Maybe he was just pretending to take photos because ladies were getting ready? I.e. He's a perve.

This is so annoying but i definitely would not ask for the photos. you didn't want him taking them so why encourage it?