Rude or not to be rude

Everyone who is invited to the ceremony should also be invited to the reception. The reception is a "thank you" to your guests for attending the wedding.

Everyone invited to ceremony should also be invited to the reception. The reception is a thank you for guests. If cost is a concern, serve cake and coffee only.



Some social circles consider it equally impolite to invite someone to the reception only but not the ceremony and they feel that they are not good enough to witness vows exchanged as the “most important” part of the day. The reception is charged per person and many ceremonies take place at the reception venue so it doesn’t save money to go that route.

Yes, it’s rude

Yes. Very.

How would you feel if you were invited to the ceremony and excluded from the reception? There’s your answer.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this. I know we all want (or feel pressured) to invite everyone to our weddings; but the reality is weddings are expensive and that’s just not always feasible! Just determine how many people you can comfortably invite to your reception (in terms of finances, space, who you actually want to be there, etc.) and only invite those people to the ceremony. You should never invite people to just one portion of the event.