Rude Bridesmaids?

This isn't high school...their relationship with each other has nothing to do with you. If you want to excommunicate your friend because she doesn't like your MOH, then so be it. But I would also expect the friendship to be done, or at least severely damaged.

Maybe she's mad because you bumped someone else up to MOH. You're not supposed to do that, it's rude. She was your MOH, she couldn't for money reasons, which is a real reason. You should have just kept them all as bridesmaids.

Ehh, going to disagree with Lucy. There are still certain roles for the MOH, even if it's as simple as holding the bouquet and signing the marriage license. If the other BM willingly stepped down, she can't be mad. She might just be frustrated at the situation.

Either way, don't worry about it. Women are bitches. They'll deal with each other.

In this situation it's best to have only bridesmaids and no MOH. Everyone's equal, there's no embarrassment on your former MOH because she couldn't afford the role, nor will she feel slighted because you appointed a new MOH.

On the flip side, it's still awful to be rude to the new MOH, or have a bad attitude in general. So it depends if you want them to claw at each other the whole time or make a decision to ease it.

A bridesmaid can hold a bouquet and sign a license. Lucy is correct.

You want to make her a guest and not a bridesmaid because of her issues with another bridesmaid. This is nonsense. They can either a) work it out or b) suck it up. You do not need to get involved.

I didn't know you needed a special title to hold a bouquet or sign a license. Her reason for resigning was legitimate & I'm sure by bumping someone else up, she made her feel like shit for not having the money to do it.

I mean, no, there's no special title needed for those things. But, I don't think we can fault OP for wanting to have a MOH. The other girl dropped out. She had every right to replace her.

Why does an MOH have more financial responsibilities than a bridesmaid?!?

I know, I'm aware she has a right to replace her, & she did. She can do whatever she wants. I'm just saying that is probably why her ex-MOH now BM is mad and being rude to her now MOH.

OP, I don't think you should do anything. Whats done is done. Let them sort it out themselves.

How about having a conversation with her about it like an adult? Ask her what's going on directly.

@Emmy, I was wondering the same thing.

@ Emmy

This varies from region to region, but in my area, the MOH usually plans and/or hosts the bridal shower and bachelorette party. So, the MOH will usually commit at the very least more time, and often, more money.

ETA: I think you need to let the girls sort things out themselves, Adija.

The only responsibilities of the bridal party are to show up on time, sober, and in the proper attire. The MOH's only additional responsibility (maybe) is to hold your bouquet during the ceremony. What financial obligations does your MOH have that the other bridesmaids do not? Anything your bridal party wishes to do beyond that (such as a shower or bachelorette party) should not be at your insistence, only if they offer. I'm very curious how stepping down as MOH but remaining in the bridal party has anything to do with financial obligations.

But to your question, you should not ask anyone to drop out of your bridal party - that's a friendship-ending move. I assume your bridesmaids are adults, let them work it out.

1- How does being the MOH have any additional $ commitments than being a regular BM?

2- Tell them to cut the childish crap and grow up.