First wait a little while once the deadline passes - procrastinators will absolutely wait til the last day possible, and then mail/email rsvps. So a few extra days are important.
Then to the few who still haven't, for us we followed up in steps. First we sent either a text or facebook message (depending on the person), if they didn't respond to that, we called. If they didn't respond to that either, we asked them in person. (If we weren't able to ask in person, we called again). If they failed to respond after those three things - they were marked as a no, and were told we couldn't wait any longer and needed to turn in our headcount.
Most people responded to the text. Out of all of our stragglers, we only had two people completely ghost us - they not only didn't show up, but we no longer speak to them (for reasons besides the wedding, but that was a big one)
Call them! After the rsvp due date has passed. Following up is a must as in some cases, things get lost in the mail (or the website glitches if online rsvp) and someone might think they’ve responded with a yes!
Call them. message them on social media. text them. email them. get a response. you don't want to mark them as no because they may not have received the invitation, or they may have sent the RSVP back but you did not receive it, or they may have forgotten to send it. This could result in them showing up and if you just marked them as no then they have no seat or food.
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