RSVPs with extra guests

Technically- you're not UNINVITING him because you never invited them.

I, personally, would go to them directly and inform them that the invitation was only for the Mr & Mrs.

By the way- you will get quite a few of those. I got 4 of those and 3 others who called to ask if their children could bring dates, I said no.

Have your FH handle this, since it is his family. It is your decision whether to allow these guests or not. But make that decision and stick to it. You aren't technically uninviting them, because they were never invited.

I agree with the PP's these extras weren't invited to begin with. However, do you think it's possible this family asked your FMIL if this was okay and she said yes? I thought her response to this situation was odd. "You can't un invite anyone at this point"

Do you think you may get more RSVP's like this?

I would say to your FMIL, the invitation was to Mr. and Mrs., not these 5 extras. We can not accommodate these 5 randos, and it will be very awkward if they show up. So can you please explain to them that 2 were invited, not 7? If she refuses, then do it yourself.

Are you not having kids? Is it possible other family members got their kids so they assumed?

If your not having kids call and say that.

It is friends of my FMIL AND FFIL, their kids are college and high school age. I might have to contact them myself because I don't see her doing it. She's the type of person who doesn't want to upset anyone or have confrontations. I explained to her we don't have the space or money for random dates. Even if we don't tell them they can't come, I would still like to know who will be at my wedding .

Lmao@richard

Yes, call them and explain. Unless you think FMIL actually invited them, then I'd have her call and explain

Omg, this is my fear. I just sent out my invites. I would contact them directly

This is why I put we have reserved ___ seats in your honor, although I still have seen people cross out numbers and write in more guests too.

I think Jennifer and Richard are on to something. FMIL sounds sketchy as hell!!! FH needs to reach out to them and let them know only the two are invited, sorry we can't accommodate the others.

All these RSVP horror stories are making me super nervous and I'm not even sending my invites out til August....UGH.....

Definitely sounds like FMIL verbally invited the extras, but extras is precisely what they are, and it sounds like she thought she was being smart. Five is an excessive number for add-ons, and all you need to say is that your venue is unable to accommodate beyond capacity.