Rsvps, missing names

For children under age 18, you can use Master or Miss as in "Master John" and "Miss Julie". No last name needed. Then place the children at the same table as their adult caregivers. I'm sure your guests will match tables if there's multiple Johns and Julies.

One way to check for names is to do a search for the guest name via the internet. Several sites will list related people. Others here will probably have an easier option for you.

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Thank you!

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I definitely used our social media for spelling of some kids names when working on the guest list, lol. Unfortunately I don't know enough about the S/O so trying to use online tools didn't work Might be a creeper method haha, but I tried it though just to see. Very common last name so it yielded multiple results in the same state, and none of them had related people matching the first names of the kids. She also doesn't use any social media at all and avoids having an online presence I suspect because of the ex, so she might not even be among the matches. But definitely a good thought! I was thinking if there was some way to request first and last name on the RSVPs and then maybe it will avoid this problem for most people.

Hi Melissa what I did was put first and last name of the person that you invited then just the first name of the guest associated with that guest and so on. That takes away of the last names of children and Adults. If whom you have invited to the wedding and if last name are long or difficult to spell initials works fine and put with the person that you will address it on invitations. I hope this helps

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Thanks for the input! So how did that work for table assignments? Like

Table 1:

Nathan Jones

Nathan Jones - Jane

Nathan Jones - John

Nathan Jones - Joe
Ect?

View Quoted Comment If everyone has the same last name the use the middle initials unless they are family. But never put ppl with the same last at the same table. Move them around and we put other s families with others to mingles to give good conservation. Now there is a family that doesn't really get along that's where that's takes places then it will be easier for you as well. We just mix them up and everyone said that every table had good conversations

Honestly, I would just ask! "We're so excited about the wedding and hope that you and your family will be joining us. As I pull together the invitation list I want to make sure I get everyone's name right. Can you please send me the spelling of everyone's full name?" That way you are not confessing to not knowing the last name, you are just asking about spelling.

I completely agree with Caryn. That’s what I did. When it was time to send out Save the Dates, I asked my guests how they would like to be addressed (Mr., Miss, Dr., Etc).. Some people want their maiden name included. Others want their nickname over their formal given name. It’s all stressful. I had multiple examples like yours and asked for their preference on how they would like to be addressed and spelling for each member of the family unless I was really comfortable with the answers to these questions already.

You could put the siblings together on one rented card, for example


Jane & JackTable 4
But I do like caryns idea!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!!