rsvps and plus ones

If people are truly single at the time invitations go out a plus one isn’t required. But if someone is in a relationship they both should be invited by name. With your wedding being more than a year away you’ll have to prepare for the possibility that people might get in a relationship by then.

If the person is single it's fine, but if they have a significant other then you should invite them as a couple.

I think that’s fine to not give it to single people

Is your father paying for your wedding? If he is I think he gets slightly more say. Either way I don’t think he should be inviting so many people that you can’t invite who you want.

I inquired about this some time ago and the majority vote was this: if you have a significant other for more than a year, then yes they deserve that additional guest. We are doing that as well, only people who have a partner for one year or more can bring their guest, or a plus 1 if they won’t know anyone else at the wedding.
We have a few friends who assumed they’d be getting a plus one, but we don’t want to go over budget or pay for a plate for people we never see or speak to.

Guests in a relationship should be granted a plus one.

View Quoted Comment This has been the most helpful so far! Thank you so much. It’s hard having two large families and still being able to invite OUR friends. I’d rather have my friend there over someone’s fly by night!

View Quoted Comment That wasn’t the question lol

If they're single at the time the invites go out, then a plus one wouldn't be necessary. If anyone you did not give a plus one to ends up in a relationship before your wedding, just let them know that you are unable to accommodate any additional guests. Unless you can after time has passed and you don't mind then go for it.

Now, as for your dad. If he is also contributing finances along with those extra guests, then I would clear it up with him to let him know that that's the only way everyone he invites can attend. I don't think it's fair for you to have to sacrifice your list for people he wants to invite to your wedding if he's not willing to help pay for it.

It's very common to not invite plus ones and there's nothing rude about it. Obviously you would invite someone's spouse/significant other by default but you generally don't invite random flavors of the month.

The rule is really all or nothing with plus ones, but everyone in a relationship needs a plus one, no matter how long they've been together. If they're truly single, you can decide for all truly single people at once if they will or won't get plus ones as a group.

I only invited plus one for people who have long term gf/bfs or engaged or married. u dont want people at ur wedding who youre never gonna see again

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Why would you feel comfortable judging the seriousness of someone else's relationship based on an arbitrary number of months that they've been together? How can you expect people to honor your relationship when you're willing to disregard theirs? The only people who know how serious a relationship is are the people in the relationship. If they consider themselves in a relationship when invitations go out, they should both be invited together or neither should be invited.

Yes, it's RUDE to not allow people in relationships to bring their SO.

We are giving a plus one to the single guests as I know it can stink to go to a wedding alone (and I'm an introvert so I hate that small talk), but my guest list is a bit smaller and we can do this without the wedding ballooning out of control. Maybe you can take a look at the list and if the persons without a partner would have other people they know you could group them together, and those people who really would be floating out there on their own give a plus 1?

For our wedding, those who were single didn't get an "and guest". They came solo. For those in relationships with a few months under their belts by the time we sent invitations they got a "Mr __ and Ms. __".

Also, keep in mind the invitation decline rate - I think it's 20-30%. AND, be prepared for some to RSVP yes but not show up to the reception. That happened to me - like 3 or 4 people on my side didn't show even though they RSVP'd yes.

For my guests the rule is that unless you're in a serious relationship you don't get a plus one. My friends that are single I flat out told them because people my age (25) think weddings are just another social event that they can bring a date to. We also addressed our invitations for specific guests, couples that were unmarried had each of their names listed, families were addressed as The "x" Family, couples were Mr. and Mrs. "x" and single people only had their name listed on the envelope

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yes that’s exactly my point! I’m 27 and I don’t want that to be the case.

I had a hard limit of 150 guests, because we couldn't afford more. Unfortunately my family is GINORMOUS. So I had to put down my foot, if I haven't seen or talked to you in more than 5 years you were not invited. So that cut down a LOT of my extended family. It sucks but it had to be done.

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My sister and I both chose to be straight forward with those people and make it clear that they do not get a plus one and so far no one has tried to fight it