Rsvps and No shows

The same way I interacted with those that RSVPed yes and attended. If you are curious, its probably fine to ask what happened. Honestly, I'm not even sure who was/if there were any no shows. I was running around the whole night talking to various guests. I wasn't worried about if there were empty seats. I figure if anyone couldn't make it, they had a reason for it.

I've had that happen -_- I hate it. It's like I didn't even really get an explanation. So one was my friggin NEIGHBOR. Invited a household of 4 family members and two of them showed up -_- the two that came said oh the other two ended up having surprise guest so they stayed to entertain them. And I was like ... Um ... Ok well that's TWO people who didn't show up and it's like $65 a person for my wedding ... So.... but the times I've seen them after we didn't really talk about the wedding.

I didn't make a big deal or ask why or anything - just treated them like normal. Stuff happens, i'm not going to pry.

Or I guess I did get an explanation from them aha but I had other no shows that didn't give me any explanation !

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I think people don't really take into account that you have paid upfront for their meal (and maybe their drink). I had to explain this to my brother in detail to make sure he RSVPs and doesn't just show up.

Thanks for the reply. Based on the few posts I have seen, I was curious on the relationships after this happened (not to say they would end, but prob strained....or like other posters, brushed over).

I think it would be strained, for me its a small wedding so every no show will count. Also if we invited you, you are very dear to us so for you RSVP and not come will def be an issue.... sure things happen, but there better be a legit excuse. Js

There were a few that happened with. My wedding was just two weeks ago, so I haven't seen them yet. I had several people say there were coming and then not show, and still haven't heard a reason as to why. Not sure how to react

We had one no show, but knew a day or so ahead of time. His mom was hospitalized and was out of town he didn’t want to travel. He was also my friend’s date whom I have never met. Even if I had no hard feeling there, emergencies happen.
Both my cousins and their spouses (4 people total) left after the first dance and the buffet was opening and didn’t eat the food we paid for. I saw them once since and didn’t really acknowledge them and haven’t spoken to them since. They left to let their dog out, their words. (Our wedding was almost a year ago). A relationship with them is not important to me at this point in my life, so if their feelings are hurt by not talking to them that’s on them. Harsh, but we didn’t really have a relationship to begin with, not since we were kids.
All that to say, I think your response/reaction would depend on the circumstances and what you want your relationship to be going forward. If they matter to you you could just say, “I was looking forward to celebrating with you at the wedding. Is everything ok?” Or maybe “we missed you at the wedding”
i wouldn’t be mean to your no shows, but if a relationship with them isn’t important I see no reason why you would even need to reach out. Just let it go.

We had two couples not come but we knew before hand. Still had to pay for their spots but the situations were reasonable. I’ll interact with them exactly the same. I did reach out to one of them but that was just to reach out and see how she was doing and I’m here if she needs it. If you don’t know why and they bring up the wedding just be like “we wish you were there but it’s ok we’ll celebrate now!” It’s not worth the heartburn. It may be a reason they didn’t want to share. I know our friend didn’t want people to know why so it stayed between us. Sometimes people can’t even tell the couple why which sucks.

Yikes. I only had 1 no-show. We really don't interact with them much at all to begin with so it's fine, I wasn't really mad. It was my husband's coworker's wife who didn't come. They were a "we were invited to their wedding so they are invited to ours" scenario.

I would imagine if it's a close friend or family member who no-showed, it would probably be strained and quite honestly I would just ask them why. I would think I have a right to know, especially if they didn't say anything of an apology.