Rsvps and Covid

Depending on how you are sending out details and RSVP info, attach a detail page that states "Due to COVID19 and restrictions for numbers, we are limiting the number of guests so please no additional guests or children"

If you have a wedding website, definitely put a page up about COVID19 FAQs.

I think most people will understand.

Address the invite only to the intended guest and their significant other regardless of how long they have been together. When replies come in and people rsvp for extras, call them up and say you have space limitations and are unable to accommodate extra people.

Nowhere on the invites or details cards do you say "no children". You can list it on your website and word of mouth. Same for Covid.

We got married pre-Covid but on our website we had a FAQ and under that we had a question that stated something along the lines of are children invited and we said while we love everyone's children that we have decided to have an adults only wedding. We also put on the RSVP card that x number of seats were reserved.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this suggestion!

Maybe something along the lines of, "Due to COVID gathering restrictions, we are forced to limit the number of guests at our event, and we will unfortunately be unable to accommodate additional guests or children. We sincerely apologize for any inconvenience. Thank you for your understanding." I would add it to your wedding website.

I would include a details card with your invitations that states “due to covid-19 restrictions, we are unable to extend an invitation to children under the age of ___, or any additional guests. Thank you for your cooperation and understanding”. If you are doing RSVP cards, I would make sure to get the ones that state x number of seats have been reserved for you (just to make it extra clear).

View Quoted Comment Hi Melissa, I like this suggestion the most!

Even before corona happened, we knew we wanted our wedding to be adults only. On our RSVP cards, we put in bold “With respect, we would like our special day to be an adults only occasion”, with no further explanation. None of our guests gave us a hard time about it thankfully.

Address the invites by name, "John Smith and Jane Smith" rather than "Smith Family"
And "we have reserved 2 adult seats in your honor
RSVP ___of 2Adults only"

We put it in our invitations that it was an adults only event. We also addressed the envelopes to either have the persons name or the person and the spouse so that there was no question of guests

__ seats have been reserved in your honor.

Unfortunately, due to the COVID-19 regulations, only the person(s) whose name appears in this invitation may come to the wedding.

We appreciate your help in advance, and can't wait to celebrate our special day with you.

View Quoted Comment 👍🏾 This is very good. I will use this on my website too

I ran into the same issue! We first of all have listed on our website that it's an adults only wedding and reception. We have it listed like this under our FAQ tab -

"Although we love your little ones, we kindly request that both our ceremony and reception be adult only. We want our guests to be able to celebrate without having to worry about little eyes and ears. We appreciate you making arrangements ahead of time and leaving the kids at home - We hope you will see this as an opportunity to let your hair down and really enjoy the party with us!"

I also have talked to the majority of our guests who have kids and they already know that their kids won't be able to come and most are totally okay with it - especially ones with younger kids!

With the plus ones, I've learned to really have a backbone and put your foot down with this. I am only giving plus ones to people who are married or in very serious relationships with people who my fiancé and I at least know of, and for all of our wedding party (we are having an intimate ceremony). You can blame everything on COVID. Tell your guests you're having to be very selective with your guest list because of covid restrictions and they don't have a choice but to understand!

Just don't invite the kids. Address the invitations to Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Not Mr. and Mrs. Smith and family. Also, when RSVPing, only allow them 2 spots. You could also add that it is an adult only wedding on your wedding website.

View Quoted Comment This is the way to go.