Rsvp

You really can’t expect an answer this early for an October wedding. It’s convenient for you to know now, but not considerate of your guests. If you demand an answer, you may get people who say yes now and no- show because they changed their mind, or people who say no and would have come but felt pushed to answer.
Our final count for the caterer is due two weeks before the wedding, so I asked for responses to be returned the week prior, giving me a week to chase down those who don’t answer. Most people probably know if they are coming, but some of our guests have definitely waited to see how things go. Right now we have 41 responses, waiting on 17, deadline in 8 days. Probably half of our yes responses were within the first two weeks of invites going out, the rest have trickled in over the last five weeks.
I wouldn’t follow up until around 3 (at most 4) weeks prior to the wedding date, and let them know you need a final count. Until then, I would plan for all of those who haven’t responded to come in case they all do.

You could word the text as something along the lines of, "Just reaching out since we haven't received your RSVP for our wedding yet! We're starting to put together a final count, and wanted to send a friendly reminder to RSVP. If possible, please let us know by [date] whether you plan to attend. We look forward to hearing back from you, and hope to see you at our wedding!"


Regardless of how the text is worded, I would definitely recommend setting an RSVP deadline in the text.

Also, I agree with Jessica's comment - I would wait until around 4 weeks before your wedding date before reaching out to anyone you haven't heard from by then. But even if you do have to reach out to people around that time, I still recommend setting a deadline at that time.

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Girl I will tell you having a date to "RSVP by" doesn't matter, I would say 20% will actually see and understand it. You will have to chase after quite a few.

Agree with pp that right now having a RSVP deadline did not affect people responding as much as we had hoped. We already passed our RSVP deadline and about 60% of our invited guests have not RSVP’d yet. A lot are waiting until October to make a decision because of covid.

Wedding planning/ brides/ grooms ARE annoying! SEND ANOTHER MESSAGE! Lol this time include a deadline for a guest count. Put some fire under their butts! Lol October around the corner! Don’t stress about it. You’re suppose to be annoying 😅😉

I would say “Due to the pandemic, we are having a ceremony and small dinner after for our guests. Please RSVP to accept or decline invitation by Blahblah,2020 for a guest count.” “Please respond promptly due to having to make reservations” I would also some way give an option if they are planning to attend ceremony only or ceremony and dinner.

View Quoted Comment Yea good idea! I will probably do that middle of September

View Quoted Comment If people don’t RSVP does that mean usually they don’t want to come ?

View Quoted Comment Not necessarily. FH’s “adoptive” sister told her mom to tell us she was coming so they didn’t bother rsvping 🙄.