rsvp

If the deadline has passed, you've tried contacting them to get their RSVP, and they still haven't responded, I would count them as a "no", and send them a message to say that since you didn't hear back from them by the time you had to submit your final count, you did not include them in the count, and you're sorry that they will be unable to join you on your wedding day.

You may get a ton of replies in the mail tomorrow with no Sunday delivery. Also in many places, the mail is seriously backed up and not getting where it needs to be for several weeks at a time if at all, through no fault of your guests. Just call/text this week to make sure.

That’s gotta be so frustrating! Our wedding is 4/3/21, mailing out invitations in January with a February 28th deadline. That gives us time to track down the stragglers! How many do you have to track down.

People are frustrating. Even pre-pandemic, people were notoriously bad about this, let alone now.

Our RSVP deadline was September 16th and we STILL have one guest who doesn't know if he's bringing his SO. He is an important person to my FH and he doesn't want to ruffle feathers with him, so we just added an extra spot to ensure this person will get food if they show up.

Awkward though, because the SO is not on the seating chart or anything, but I'm not going to worry about it. We needed that information a while ago and asked him several times.

Several people on my side of the family also either claimed they RSVP'd but didn't, or just didn't RSVP at all, but told my mom they're coming.

As a previous poster mentioned, definitely give it a few days for mail delays and whatnot, then call/text to hunt those answers down.

We made our RSVP deadline about a week earlier than needed so that I had buffer time to hunt down responses.

It is really frustrating. I feel like people think that no answer is the same thing as RSVP but it isn’t. Because they don’t understand we want a confirmation

Hi Tanzie,

I feel your frustration i am in the same boat as you. I sent out the invitations in late September and i still have guests who haven't RSVP'D i think it's b.s honestly because people know how hard and time consuming a lot of money and time to plan a wedding. I am sure the one's that still haven't responded already know if they are going or not. I don't understand why people hold on to the RSVP's it's really not that hard to say YES or NO then mail it out.

It's so frustrating. We didn't get some people's physical RSVP in the mail until a week after the due date. We had people RSVP yes then come back and say they can't come a week later. Someone just declined coming just this passed Saturday and our wedding is the 10th. Just tell us no if you're not going to be able to make it especially after our final numbers are in.

Let me clarify by saying that invitations were sent out in JUNE and their response was due last month my final head count for the venue and catering was due yesterday... RSVP was through text to my phone (only 1 person actually texted thee number everyone else either RSVP'd through my mom and FH or not at all) we have 2 weeks till the wedding and with pricing being almost $20 a person I really need the final head count with 10 people with no RSVP it's a potential extra $200 and all these people live less than an hour from the venue so no excuse for them not to come they just won't respond to our messages asking if they are coming or not... I've been messaging them since the 18th of last month for their answer and it's not that they are ignoring all our messages just the ones about the wedding

View Quoted Comment You’ve been very gracious! At this point I would send one last message saying if they do not RSVP, you would make them as a NO. That’s very inconsiderate of them. It’s a lot planning a wedding and very more stressful now planning a wedding in the midsts of Covid.


I told my guest if they are having second thoughts cause of Covid they should not come.