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Dedicated December 2020

Rsvp..

Future Mrs. Lowder, on October 26, 2020 at 8:56 AM Posted in Planning 0 13

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Hey y’all,

Our date is just about a month and a half out!! That being said, we need the last of our RSVPs so we have an accurate head count for our caterer, our tables, chairs, etc. For the most part I’ve been able to get responses from people. Some sent their RSVPs back. Others I had to contact. We have 18 people (10 households) that we either:1) haven’t been able to get in touch withOr2) They ignored our message (I can see read receipts) Obviously this is pretty frustrating as I have a lot to do still. What should I do so that I can continue with my planning? Because we need to finish our shopping (especially having to order so much online) help!?

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on October 27, 2020 at 4:08 AM

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Yasmine · on October 26, 2020 at 9:19 AM
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I would give them one final date and tell them if the don't RSVP by that date then you will have to cut them off of the guest list. Mention that you have deadlines for you vendors (even though everyone should know this) and you cannot wait for last minute RSVP's.
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Lisa · on October 26, 2020 at 9:20 AM
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If your RSVP deadline is passed, I would reach out to those who you haven't heard from, and give them one more chance to RSVP. Something along the lines of, "We haven't received your RSVP for our wedding yet! Our deadline has now passed, and we would appreciate your reply. If we don't hear from you by [new date], we will count you as 'Not Attending'." If they still don't reply am that new date, count them as not attending. A phone call may work easier than a text or email.
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Lisa · on October 26, 2020 at 9:21 AM
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Reply by* the new date
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Future Mrs. Lowder · on October 26, 2020 at 9:22 AM
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This is awesome! Thank you!
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Caytlyn · on October 26, 2020 at 9:29 AM
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This is very early for an RSVP deadline since the normal timeline is to send invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Honestly, it may be hard for some people to give a final answer this early with the current circumstances. When is your final headcount due? I would reach out to anyone who hasn't RSVPd and say "Hello, our RSVP deadline was ___ and we noticed we haven't received yours yet. If we do not hear from you by (insert one week before final headcount is due,) we will assume that you're unable to attend."
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Future Mrs. Lowder · on October 26, 2020 at 9:31 AM
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We are having a destination wedding right before a major holiday so we sent our invitations early before people starting making plans they couldn’t change. Thanks for the tip!
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Michelle · on October 26, 2020 at 9:59 AM
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Totally agree with Yasmine & Lisa. Good luck!
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Michele · on October 26, 2020 at 10:39 AM
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If you reached out and they did not respond after a couple tries then count them as a no.

Your reply date is very early and most venues/caterers are aware of the standard 6-8 week invite timeline when they are sent out so they wont require a final count earlier than 3 weeks before the wedding.
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Future Mrs. Lowder · on October 26, 2020 at 10:43 AM
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We reached out a third time this morning. I think what we’re going to do is give it about a week and whoever hasn’t responded by then will be put down as a no
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Michele · on October 26, 2020 at 10:47 AM
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That's very generous. While the mail backed up is a huge issue, they should respond to a phone call or text by the 2nd try. If they don't reply by the end of the day, since your third attempt is this morning, mark them down as a no before you go to bed. Don't give them an extra week at most unless you want to.
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Melle · on October 26, 2020 at 3:08 PM
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I agree with pp - have a final date to when they can respond by and if they don't then that's a no
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Dj Tanner · on October 26, 2020 at 5:23 PM
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We are giving a set RSVP date. Whoever doesn’t respond we’re assuming it’s a no. We’ve already said we’re not reaching out to anyone, we’ll just take the hint and assume they don’t want to go. I feel like when people reach out to others they will say yesBecause they might feel put on the spot but then they pull no-shows or come up with some sort of excuse last minute and then you end up paying for those same people. Some people don’t have the guts to simply put no on an RSVP.
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Rebecca · on October 27, 2020 at 4:08 AM
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"If we do not hear from you by Thursday, there will not be a seat at the wedding for you. We'll miss you!"
.... But, uh, I'm blunt.
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