Rsvp!!!

You haven't even reached your RSVP deadline yet. Many people, unfortunately, will put theirs in the mail that day. I would wait until 2-3 days after the deadline then send a text and say "Hi! Our RSVP deadline was the 15th and we noticed we haven't received yours yet. If we don't hear from you by ___, we will assume that you can't make it. Hope to hear from you soon."

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Thanks Caytlyn...I suppose i'm just getting nervous.

It's fairly common for people to RSVP last minute or late (or not at all). Does your fiance have contact info for any of the people you haven't heard from? If so, maybe a couple days after the deadline, have him contact his friends/family to ask for a response. For any of your friends/family that you don't have info for, do your parents or other immediate family members have their contact info? If so, try to track it down and ask them for a reply (also a couple days after the deadline).

It;s super common and annoying aha. people often times wait until the last minute to RSVP and then you will have the people who don't rsvp and you have to track them down

Whoever gave you your addresses for them should have a phone number or email.
It is worth collecting them Now.
If your date is the 15th, it is okay to call a couple days before. Explain in a couple days you have to tell them how many guests, and meal orders. Have a pencil and a meals choices chary made in advance, for those who have not sent them will need to tell you that. If young kids are invited, ask if they need booster seats or high chairs, and get the information. except in a rare situation, they know 3 weeks out. Don't settle for a promise to talk to someone and mail it to you. Ask, when can I call or email again to ask? and give info so they can call you first. Some people these days act like they have never held or been to a party with invitations. Still figuring mom will arrange the play dates and write the thank you notes. Frustrating, isn't it.

This is just the most annoying part. You’ll have to chase these people down and some of them would rather never call you back than decline. Wait until after your due date, then reach out by phone or email. Only reach out once, with a date and if they don’t respond then they aren’t coming. Good luck, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Good luck!

I would wait a day or two until after your deadline to start reaching out. If you don't have someone's number or email, I would see if you could get their number from a relative. Or if they have a Facebook message them on there. I reached out to some people via Facebook since I didn't have their number. Getting people to RSVP is such an annoying process.

Unfortunately people wait til the last minute, and in this current climate many people really are down to the wire making the decision to attend events. Give it a couple days after your date to start tracking people down (I don’t recommend reaching out before the deadline— you gave it to them for a reason, and they might not have replied yet for a reason — I once had someone reach out to me two weeks before an RSVP date to pressure me into an answer and it was really off putting) . For what it’s worth on my deadline date I was missing 24 replies and in the next couple days I heard from all but one of those people! Regarding *how* to contact after the date, for this it’s okay to reach out via something like Facebook Messenger if you’re connected on there or to reach out to a middle man — the person I was missing was a relative who is much closer to my mom than I am , so I asked her to reach out to them for me !

Our RSVP deadline was yesterday, we still had about 20 people that hadn’t responded by then. We did have a few RSVPs that came a few days prior to the due date though. But definately be prepared to contact people somehow because not everyone will respond themselves.

This is a common and yes pretty annoying problem. I wouldnt take it personally, just assume people are busy. I would follow up with the ones you havent heard from on the day theyre due. If they dont respond after that, accept it as a no.

Same Here! Same Deadline. Still Waiting On 22 RSVPs From FH’s Family. People Havent Been Rsvping Even After Saying Theyre Coming And Some Havent RSVP’d No After Telling Us They Cant Come. Its Frustrating People Dont Understand How An RSVP Works 🥴 I Dont Have The Guests Info So My FH Will Be Checking Up On Them The Day After The Deadline.

View Quoted Comment Wow, exactly the same. Good luck! Let me know how it goes.

In the same boat with the majority of people not responding. My deadline was Sept 11th....I just made a funny post on Facebook about it and just like that I bet I got 15 people to RSVP! Ain't nobody got time for all that....especially not us Covid brides. I am extending my deadline to the 20th but that's it! I don't hear from you....you better bring a chair, a sammie and a cold one! Good luck to you!!

We have the same date!!! We set our RSVP deadline for the 7th of Sept. We have not reached out at all because we honestly don't want anyone to come unless they feel it is important enough. Now we did mention on the day of the deadline that IF there were any last minute RSVP's or those who forgot to mail it back wanted to be counted they needed to let us know ASAP. We have 5 other couples respond and that was all we did.

Take a deep breath honey and enjoy the sprint to the finish line!