Devoted August 2019


Amanda, on July 26, 2019 at 11:11 AM Posted in Planning 0 9
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Our due date for rsvps is a week away and so far I haven't even gotten half back! At what should I start contacting people? I don't want to seem rude or pushy but.....I need to know whose coming. Thanks


  • Nikita
    VIP April 2019
    Nikita ·

    Did you build in buffer time after the RSVP date? Typically, you'd contact them as soon as the RSVP date passes.

    If not, text people/call them now stating, "I'm sorry if this seems rude, but I have a firm deadline of 'x,' and if I don't hear back by then, I'll need to mark you as a decline. Please let me know asap."

  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    I waited a few days after before I started asking people. People are so bad with rsvp'ing . I do also notice that alot of people RSVP when it's pretty much almost the last day or on the last day. You'll definitely get stragglers you'll have to chase an answer down for though
  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·

    Don't reach out until the day after the deadline, at the very earliest. I would wait a few days for stragglers who sent theirs out the day it was due.

  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·

    I'd try to wait until after the RSVP date if you can. But I think contacting people the next day is totally fine.

  • Christine
    Devoted September 2020
    Christine ·

    I think you'll get a lot more responses right at the deadline! Wait until the day after your RSVPs are due to start contacting people. And if they still don't respond after you reach out and you're up against the deadline to give final numbers to your caterer, I would let people know something along the lines of, "Our RSVP deadline has passed and we haven't heard back from you. Please let us know no later than Friday if you're able to make it, as we need to give final numbers to our venue. If we don't hear from you by then, we unfortunately won't be able to accommodate you at the wedding."

  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·

    Wait until after the deadline passes. SO MANY tend to come in last minute because that's human nature lol. Sometimes some even take longer than that because the mail is slow. So wait until the day they are due - then give a few days for the stragglers (thanks, USPS) to flow in. If there are still a few outstanding after that few days, reach out kindly and ask if they had sent them back. We had a few that did get lost in the mail (we received one rsvp card like 3 weeks after the wedding lol!) so just reach out, keep it friendly, give people the benefit of the doubt. (Until the catering deadline is HERE, then it becomes "ok I need to know now - yes or no. If I don't hear from you, I have to count you as a no, and if you show up, bring a chair and your own McD's dinner." LOL

  • A
    Devoted August 2019
    Amanda ·
    Thanks ladies! Just trying to make sure I was doing the right thing 😊 RSVP date is August 1 and seating chart is due on August 17th!
  • Kim
    Super September 2019
    Kim ·

    I am so in the same boat! And waiting on RSVPs is making me anxious! I am sort of wondering too if everybody got the invitations.

  • A
    Devoted August 2019
    Amanda ·
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    Exactly! I think we got everyone's correct address but who knows

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