rsvp wording, what do you think?

I think these look good! The only issue I see is allowing them to write the names in themselves, which would lead to people adding guests that weren't invited in place of those who can't make it. I would put the names on there for them.

If I'm reading this right, you want to offer one of three meal choices to each guest. If that's the case, I wouldn't let them check 1, 2, or 3 - I'd probably put "meal: ____". As it is now, I wouldn't be surprised if some people check more than one entrée either because they think they can get two portions, or because they think the caterer would do half portions of both, or because they just don't get it.

Yeah! I think that looks great. I personally don't mind numbering the food options for ease of filling in the RSVP, but I think this looks cleaner. Nice job!

This is so smart! This really should be the standard for those having plated meals. I think it looks great. I would just maybe split the "We have reserved..." and the "Number attending..." lines to top and bottom of the card to break it up visually?