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There is no polite way to say that. If you don’t want people to decline or rsvp yes and then not show, don’t invite them.

Generally you would actually want people to RSVP, even if it’s a decline. It’s important for planning. You need to know whether you should remove a table(s) from your previous estimate, food plates, etc. The worst would be for someone to not RSVP, but then show up and you don’t have a seat or meal for them.
I’m currently in the RSVP phase and it’s driving me crazy waiting on people to simply click a button on The Knot and tell me whether or not they’re coming. The declines have been helpful because it’s looking like we will get to remove some tables and have more room than I expected lol.
But yeah agree with PP. it’s not proper etiquette to tell people to *not* RSVP if it’s a decline. In fact, it’s bad etiquette for guests to not RSVP at all to you.

I'm confused, don't you want them to RSVP "No" if they can't make it? Or, why do you think people who know they can't come would respond with a "Yes"?

I would say something along the lines of ‘Please RSVP yes ONLY if you are 100% sure you will attend. If you know you will not be able to attend, please RSVP no as soon as possible so we can plan accordingly.’

View Quoted Comment That’s kinda hard for me seeing that some of the people are her family members.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the insight Erin. On the website it does have the option to attend or decline I also think there’s a ‘ tentative ‘ option. However, I just feel like there will be some people that will RSVP and not show. I think what I will do is just add ‘ Please accept or decline your attendance’ or something along those lines that way they know to hit decline if they don’t plan to attend.

View Quoted Comment LOL - sad to say. But some of the type of people i’m dealing with will do just that. But I will word it differently so they kno to RSVP if they are coming or not.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Debbie! Because I do feel like there has to be some sort of disclaimer.

RSVP is just a request to respond with a yes or a no. It's french for "respondez s'il vous plait", which is please respond. If you ask people to RSVP only if they're attending, you won't hear from those that can't come. You'll need everyone for your numbers.

There's no polite way to say "are you sure???" when people respond yes. I would avoid anything tentative with RSVP's though, and that might help.

View Quoted Comment I just put ‘please accept or decline your attendance’.

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Perfect sounds good!