RSVP "We have reserved ____ seats in your honor"

Hmm, think it would be "moms name, daughter, date" and anyone over 18 but still living at parents house gets their own invite

If mom has a SO, you'd include the name of the SO, rather than just "and guest." Only if you are inviting single people to bring a guest would you use the "and guest" part. So for your first one, it would be mom's name, guest's name, daughter's name.

On the second one, a kid over 18 should get his or her own invitation, not be included on that of the parents.

I think for the RSVP, they write their own names in. I was thinking that because say you write they have 4 seats available and then they say only 2 are attending, you won't know which 2 will be at the wedding. eta: you should address the envelope to all 4 though

Yeah, they write their own names in. You fill out the seats reserved

Can you not write mom and family 3 seats have been reserved?

Dont writeall the names. Just write the heads of the household. I have a couple people who are dating and have kids.

Mr & Mrs john Smith & family

Mr Adam White & Ms Jane Smith & Family

And you dont have to send a separate invite if you dont want to. I only gave seperate invites to people who have there own kids, one grandparent, and one great aunt who are living with other people invited. I'm not sending a seperate one to my cousin who has never lived outside his parents house...

You don't write the names on the rsvp card, they write whoever is coming.

I am a big fan of the phrase, "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor." I think it helps limit the # of misunderstandings with guests. We used this on our RSVPs too. I tried to stick to the rule that they get their own invite if they're over 18 but still live with their parents. I ended up sending 3 invites to a couple of households, which was kind of costly and annoying, but oh well. They should be writing their own names in for the RSVP.

ETA - We're doing mostly online RSVP through our WW wedding website, that way each guest can RSVP individually and we don't have to worry about there not being enough room on the RSVP card. We only have 10 "traditional" RSVPs going out w/ self-addressed, stamped return envelopes for those guests we know are not "tech-savvy" enough to easily figure out the online RSVP process.

For my wedding we are not inviting children under the age of 12 so if I am letting them fill in their own names, how do I prevent this? I am trying to make it as idiot proof as possible. i guess it makes more sense to have them fill in their own names on the RSVP but like I said, I am trying to make it as idiot proof as possible lol

You don't fill in that line at all. On the front of the inner envelope, you write the guest's names informally. You'd write "xxx and Guest", and on the line of the actual reply card, they write the names of the people that are accepting the invitation. For example, you may have invited "Mr. and Mrs. Smith", but only "Mrs. Smith" can attend. On that line, she would write "Mrs. Smith", check the "yes" box, and write "1" under number attending. That line is so guests can write who is coming so you know what names to have printed on the place cards.

Generally a very bad idea to put an age limit for children - either adults only or all children is better or you risk splitting up family's in that the 12 year old can go and the 10 year old can't - not fair in anyway

People who are over the age of 18 and are being invited with a date should receive their own invitation.

ETA - I am assuming the OP is referring to writing names on the front of the envelope, not the RSVP card.

My RSVPs are very similar. I input number of seats reserved and I'm letting them input there own name. The envelope is addressed specifically to those invited. I have a couple cases where I've allowed a plus one and I'm finding out who that person is when they write their name in on the RSVP card.

The age limit works for us. Our families don't have kids under the age of 12 but our friends do. If I added on my friends kids that were under 12 I would be adding another 35 guests to my guest list. Not to mention most of our friends like to party and drink so they would not be watching their children and I am not becoming a babysitter at my own wedding. its my party, not theirs. Thanks to all who gave advice! I appreciate it.

They fill out names and number, you fill out "We have reserved ____ seats in your honor".

Sent out as:

Names: ___________________

We have reserved __4__ seats in your honor

# Attending ____

Returned as:

Names: ____Mr and Mrs Smith_______________

We have reserved __4__ seats in your honor

# Attending ___2___

or

Names: ___Jane, John, Susie and Jimmy Smith___

We have reserved __4__ seats in your honor

# Attending ___4___