RSVP upset - guess it's a small wedding!

Yes, definitely. There were a lot of people who I fully expected to come, who declined because of....work. Dumb reason to me when you got a save the date 9 months ago, but at 62, when we originally wanted 75, isn't too bad

Aw. I understand how you feel.

But.....you'd be surprised at how awesome less than 100 people can be. You can save on centerpieces and tables, plus food costs etc. But it was really really exhausting making sure I spoke to all 96 of our guests. I had a few comments from people that they felt that 100 people is a good number...it feels more intimate and that people are more of a group. So you'll have even more time to devote to everyone! Chin up!

Thanks Janeen! That really did help to hear! KM yeah I kinda feel like my STDs were wasted because no one really "saved" the date haha ... but I guess life happens!

You'll probably get a few more RSVPs this week from the stragglers/procrastinators.

We had about 125 at our wedding (out of 150 invited) and that was a nice, manageable number.

I would wait too. I had the same issue and then a week or so later got like 20-30 more back...

It's going to be an amazing day either way!

I went through that. I had a lot of people not send the card back and we had a lot of declines. THEN, we had a bunch of people that said they would be there that weren't. You learn a lot about people through wedding planning.

Just remember that the people who want to be there to celebrate with you will be. Those that decline, don't respond at all or don't show up probably don't matter as much as those that do.

I am sorry your grandparents can't make it. By the time I got married, I didn't have any living grandparents left and H only has one grandma left. Its very hard

It's amazing how things like that can get to you; how you can feel personally rejected. I had to dial back my feelings on some of the things that happened last minute and focus on the good. And I was just so happy about who did make the time to come that I didn't even notice the ones who didn't make it a priority.

We had just over 90 people at our wedding, and it was actually really nice. You'll actually get to spend time with everyone rather than just waving from a distance. And it's true, the money you'll save will be awesome in the end (but yeah, it sucks they weren't there).

I am sorry to hear this. I have lost 3 grandparents over the last 6 years, it makes it really hard. Because I know if my grandmother was alive she'd be really excited and calling every other day to check on the planning. I had this problem (which is why I want to charter a bus from my hometown) with my law school graduation. I had ppl who I would have bet a million dollars they wouldnt miss it. My immediate family isnt rich, but I have some few millionaires in my family and they didn't show. And publicly and privately proclaimed "you know we'd never miss it" and "were going to be there w/ bells and whistles" but a week or so before "oh sorry the flights were so expensive were going to send your gift" "something came up at work" although they knew the date for a whole year. It was certainly disappointing. I had to take a step back and think.... if they had a wedding (that I am not in) or graduated would I be able to make the 13 hour trip or fly? and 90% of the time it was no. So I know the important ppl will be there but it is nice to have it w/ the ppl you love, esp bc you know in the back of your mind if it was in your hometown they'd all be there.

Most of our guests are from out of state and I worry that we will not have enough guests and we must pay for a minimum of 150. :-(