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Devoted May 2016

RSVP two weeks before the wedding, "with guests"?!

., on May 15, 2016 at 7:04 PM Posted in Planning 0 11
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I am so irritated, so frustrated and absolutely annoyed. Our final guest count was due in April, which is stated clearly on our RSVP site as deadline.

Of course I've been getting a lot of last minuters, but most of them are expected. I just got one that says "with guests", Wtf does that even mean?! How many more people is she bringing!?

Honestly guys... I'm to the point where I feel like I'll actually get a sadistic satisfaction at people without a place seating. At first I was so so worried about people being left standing, and paid a bunch of extra money to our caterers because I feel it's our obligation, but I've done what I was supposed to do already. I gave the RSVP deadline, rounded up with the caterers...

At this point "with guests" is going to be on her damn own!!

Sorry, I'm just so fed up.

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Latest activity by Lauren17, on May 15, 2016 at 7:59 PM
  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    How did you invite her? Call and clarify.

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  • .
    Devoted May 2016
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    She's FBIL's wife's mother. I don't have her number, I've been communicating with FBIL's wife to talk to her. I've already sent her a text and she said she'd get back with me.

    At this point though, there's nothing else I can do but tell her not to bring whoever, which sounds super rude, or have them show and potentially not have a seat, which is also rude. So either way, I'm rude because she did this and that's what's annoying.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    You get her number and you call her, and you tell her she cannot bring anyone except the person who invited to some with her.

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  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·
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    Why are you inviting FBIL's wife's mother? This seems like over inviting to me. Is she really your nearest and dearest?

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    Devoted May 2016
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    She really isn't, but she somehow always shows up at family events -Christmases and thanksgivings to hang out with her grandsons, so FH wanted to invite her. I could care less if she was there tbh, and now I wish we hadn't!

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    I think it's a strange invite also - if you have no way to contact her. I would ask your fsil for the number. Call her and clarify who is and is not invited and let her know you have updated the caterer to let them know she -or she and A GUEST will be there

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  • Lbee59
    Super June 2016
    Lbee59 ·
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    We had a few people add their dates without asking. Luckily we had a few families RSVP no or they'd be sitting on the floor!

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  • Bee
    Master April 2017
    Bee ·
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    Yea it's not rude for you to contact them and uninvite the random add. It's rude on their part to add the guests themselves.

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  • Soon2BMrsB
    VIP October 2016
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    You need to call her and explain extra guests are not invited. Obviously I'd find a nice way to say it, but it's so rude of people to just add guests to your guest list.

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  • LaToya
    Expert June 2016
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    FH and myself were very clear when we said no rsvp after the deadline. We did save the dates and invitations exactly to timeliness and had online RSVP as well as contacting our wedding planner if they were unable to do it online and she manually put it ones who had computer trouble. Some people lose their manners with the differences between a wedding and a cookout.... smh

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  • Lauren17
    Master July 2017
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    Call her and ask her what her response meant and blame venue restrictions for unwanted additional guests. Can't believe these people n rsvps

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