rsvp to reception only

Does your venue even allow this? Because of our bar package, late night snack, and needing tables and chairs, we could be losing the venue hundreds or thousands of dollars if we tried to do this. They’d shut our wedding down if there was suddenly a bunch of extra people after dinner.

View Quoted Comment Everyone is invited to both. So my venue knows the total head count is not over their capacity. But I am giving them the option to skip dinner if they’d like. My venue has no problem with people coming afterwards as tables and chairs will be moved for dancing and we have a cash bar and are catering in our own late night snacks.

No offense intended, but I think the concept is really odd and would be surprised to hear that it’s common anywhere. Of the many weddings that you attended and skipped dinner, how did you rsvp?

If you go to the RSVP page you can add an event. I believe the generic it sets up is labeled wedding, so you can add a reception event as well and then people can rsvp to both as separate events. My parents are hosting a breakfast the next day so I created a separate rsvp for that! Also, when they rsvp and enter their response, it takes them to a "notes" section so they could also say it there if they can only come to one and then you can mark it on your master RSVP list.

There is one family who cant attend my reception for personal reasons but still wants to attend the ceremony since that is supposed to be the more important piece. So I understand that can happen!

View Quoted Comment The weddings paper RSVP literally said to check one:
Regretfully decline
dinner and dancing
dancing only.


We couldn’t make the ceremony or dinner but wanted to still come so we came around 8pm. I feel like this has always an option due to head counts wanted to know how much food they need. Maybe it’s just a thing in Wisconsin

I honestly would prefer if it was the other way that people came for the Ceremony and skipped dinner and dancing. To me the post important part of the day is to witness me and my FH say our vows. When you say customize the RSVP page are you referring to the RSVP page on your wedding website?

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. That’s just not the case sometimes so I want to allow people the ability to let us know so we aren’t paying for plates of food that won’t get eaten. Yes I am reverting to the RSVP page on the website

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I also thought of making making “dancing only” a meal option so that way there less things for them to select (if that makes sense). Then I just put a note on the RSVP page saying “if you can’t make the meal but will catch us on the dance floor- choose “dancing only” as your meal option. Opinions on that?