rsvp Reminders?

I don't think it could hurt to send a friendly reminder. If anything, it just gives everyone a little push to finally answer. And if it's close family that hasn't answered, I know I'd want to remind them so that they have a chance to be a part of it. Whatever you think is best, but I don't think it would be a bad idea!

Especially because your wedding is a destination wedding. That makes the head count especially important. I would definitely send a text, call or mail to let them know is they don't RSVP that they will be counted as a decline.

Is your RSVP date the same as the booking deadline? If it is, then a friendly reminder won’t hurt. If the deadline is after the RSVP date, which is what I would have done, then wait until after the deadline to chase people up. Don’t count them as not attending until you’ve spoken to them, either way.

After the deadline you are still supposed to follow up. Your RSVP deadline is supposed to be a little before your actual true deadline so that it gives you time to contact people who have not responded so that they can make arrangements if they do intend to come. If your deadline is the absolute last day they can book rooms and such, I would definitely reach out before

View Quoted Comment Thanks this is really helpful. My official deadline ifor the resort is after the RSVP date so I should have plenty of time to give the final headcount. Thank you for the advice! 😊

I would follow up entirely different I would let them know you double checked so you could give final numbers and didn't see an RSVP from them and wanted to make sure it hasn't been lost in the mail.
I've actually had 3 people tell me they sent their RSVP to us but we never received it....so it is possible that at least some of them could have sent in the RSVP and it got lost in the mail.

The “friendly reminder” should come after the rsvp deadline, at which time you are perfectly within your right to reach out and say you need an answer.
A reminder before the deadline generally comes off as nagging, not friendly.

We had a DW and I only reminded guests after it was past the date. We also picked an earlier than usual RSVP date because it was a few days before the cut off date for room block so I would be able to help procrastinators that RSVP yes.

I learned that approaching people before the RSVP can go wrong. Some people feel pressured and just decline because they did not have time to work their finances. I had family members that did that to someone that would attend and the outcome was not positive. They are adults and if they are close enough to you they won't just forget about your wedding.

You shouldn't be following up with people until after your RSVP date has passed. You gave them that date for a reason, so you need to stick to it. There should still be a follow-up phone call to tell them you need an answer, but not until the RSVP date has passed. Then you can tell people if you don't have an answer by the booking deadline (or a couple days before) then you'll have to mark them as a no.

I'd maybe send out a polite text, email, or call the day before the RSVP deadline. I sometimes forget about RSVP deadlines or lose the RSVP card, so I'd appreciate a reminder!

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These are all great feedback comments. I didn't think of sending the reminders after the deadline. I didn't want to feel like I was nagging or begging my guests but sending the reminders after the deadline is perfect! And I still have plenty of time before my final headcount to the resort. Thanks for the help guys/gals!!

Hi Stacy!

So much great advice on here. Sending a polite little reminder after the deadline is a great tactic, especially since you're having a destination wedding.

Out of curiosity, where is your special destination?

View Quoted Comment Hi Maren,
Yes this feedback was very helpful.
We’re getting married in Puerto Vallarta Mexico!
Are you thinking of a destination wedding too?

Stacy