rsvp problems

Some people are just rude. When is your deadline? I would wait a few days after they are due then text everyone and tell them if you don’t hear from them by x date you will mark them as not attending.

I honestly don't know what happened to people but we all collectively forgot how to respond to an RSVP. And it seems so much worse when it's a wedding. Did these people never plan a catered event where they pay per person? I agree with Cyndy. Give them a final date and let them know your numbers will be provided to your vendors by that date. Anyone that did not reply will not be counted and will not have a seat or a meal.

Oh it has blown my mind with people RSVPing!
Ive has people add 2 to their number. One couple said that they can’t come but their son & DIL will come in their place, and others who have added a plus one without asking! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

The final meeting is on the 9th of October with the venue. I have already purchased favors and décor and about a trillion other things based on numbers of people who told me months ago -yeah I would love to come to your wedding. Now people are mute and rude. So frustrating. FH wants to invite people that didn't make the original guest list..

This was the worst part of planning for me.. Hang in there!

That’s tough and I hear it often. I have to admit... I terrible with mail (these days, I never mail anything and I haven’t owned a stamps for like 5 years). Unfortunately, I think it’s no longer a common way that we communicate anymore. So people sit on RSVPs without thinking to send them back. Because of this, we’re definitely having all RSVPs online. That way I don’t even waste a stamp. I don’t care if people text me their response or say it in person. As long as I know “yay or nay”. Lol!!!

Good luck with your remaining responses.

A couple people told me they just don’t mail things anymore and cant they just tell me?! I promptly sent them our wedding website they can use along with a snarky comment about how that little red flag on their mailbox works. It’s better for everyone that they reply in a proper form or out of 100 people, I will forget one and we will both feel like crap when you don’t have a spot to sit or a meal.

Ugh yea people can be so bad at rsvp'ing. It's frustrating because it's like .. we have to have final counts for things

When is your actual RSVP deadline? If it hasn't happened yet, try to be patient. Many people wait until the due date to put their response in the mail. You shouldn't really follow up with people until at least a couple days after the RSVP date. Depending on your date in November, mid-September is pretty far in advance and some people legitimately may not know what their availability will be. I know it's frustrating, but try to be patient. Your wedding is still at least 6 weeks away, if it's in November.

I’ve had people tell family members they were coming instead if simply putting the prestamped rsvp in the mail also, I’ve had to call some people and they’ll say “oh yea, we’re coming” like helloooo were you going to say anything?? Lol i know how stressful it can be. I’m pretty sure I’ll have some stragglers show who didn’t rsvp, they won’t have anything to eat, it’s their fault! Lol If i were you I’d only ask ppl one time if they don’t respond then don’t worry about it, if they show without a seat it’s their fault too. We can’t babysit adults

The RSVP by date was Sept 15th. I had read a lot about this on here and thought, ok please don't let that happen. And here we are.

I feel your pain!! I had the same issues....

Can totally relate... Our RSVPs are due this Saturday (September 21)... We have literally only heard from half of the people we invited even with multiple reminders sent out 🤦 Not only do we need a count for the caterer... But we are doing s'mores so we need an idea of how much to buy for them. Plus our favors are mason jar cups... So the cup they drink out of that night, they take home with them... But we can't be sure that we have enough glasses if people won't RSVP 😩

Yikes! We had to reach out to some people too. If it gets too close to your deadline, we’d kindly say if we didn’t head by (such and such) date, we’d have to mark them as not attending. It’s frustrating! Hang in there!

Most RSVP dates are just under a month from the event. You are asking for them early, for a November wedding. A lot of people do not hear about work time off until 4 weeks or less, and most school events are set less than a month ahead. So not everyone is acting like jerks ( some are) it is just that they will not know themselves definitely until 3.5 to 4 weeks ahead of time. They cannot tell you what employers have not told them. Then you should get a bunch at once . Makes you crazy, though, doesn't it, that people think they can act like these are $5 movie passes, to give to anyone who wants them.

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Agree with this. Invites usually go out 8 weeks before a wedding and you're asking people to commit 8 weeks before a wedding. I'm sorry you're having trouble collecting RSVPs but that's probably the reason...

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Part of the problem is that that's a little too early for a November 2nd wedding. Some people legitimately do not know for sure if they can attend that far out. RSVP dates should be 2-4 weeks from the wedding date, depending primarily on when your caterer needs the final head count.

My friends had this problem and made a facebook event for everyone who hadn't mailed their RSVP. they ended up rsvp'ing via the facebook group then. Its annoying they had to resort to that, but it helped them... Good Luck... people are the reason I spend most of my time with my dogs

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I had to do that for my engagement party! After putting the stragglers in a Facebook event, all but 2 finally responded. Annoying, but it worked. I hope that I won't have to do that for the actual wedding, but.....

I know what you mean. Drives me crazy!! I guess they don’t understand how important that is for planning and costs. My invitation was a web site and easy to get in and just rsvp there with your cell phone. But a few friends were telling me oh just do it for me. When I was super busy planning everything. 🤦🏻‍♀️