rsvp online, mail, or both?

We gave guests both options and surprisingly way more guests mailed them back! Even the younger crowd!

I gave 75% of our guests only the option to RSVP online. I sent paper RSVP cards to our older guests only. A lot of the middle age folks that we sent paper cards to ended up RSVPing online anyways.

For us, we strictly requested online rsvps only. Most people on our guest list know how to use computers and their phones. They'll have to go online which is super easy and simple rsvp. Some folks have already verbalized that they are attending like my two grandmas and one of my older uncles, so that was fine. No one seems to be having any issues with rsvps.

Im sending an rsvp card that states the option to do both by mail or online but Im only going to put return stamps for the older family members. Im hoping most will rsvp online.

View Quoted Comment That's a great idea! I didn't even think about giving different groups different options. I thought of it as all or nothing and requested online-only RSVPs. And it was really hard to get some of the young people to even do it!

Take a look at your list and determine who would be okay with RSVPing online. For example, we are mailing invites to everyone and RSVP cards. On the younger guests, we are placing a sticker on their RSVP that says RSVP online. For everyone else, we are providing pre-stamped RSVPs for them to mail back. I hope this helps!

I suppose if you send both, people will probably feel guilty about wasting a stamp and therefore mail your RSVP card. But we are solely doing online RSVP to avoid any unnecessary stamps. Since we’re only inviting 65 guests, who we regularly see and/or communicate with, It will be easy enough to contact them if we don’t receive an RSVP.

We’re only having guests RSVP online and not dealing with RSVP cards. If somebody can’t figure it out, they’ll end up calling me. I have some pretty nosey aunts who are always in everybody’s business which is tremendously helpful 😉.

We did both and I was super happy we did. Every guest got a stamped & addressed RSVP card, then the RSVP card mentioned you could also RSVP online. We invited 225 people (a little over 100 households) and 75% ended up using the RSVP card even though we had a much younger crowd. The online RSVP was used about 15% of the time so I'm happy we did both.

View Quoted Comment How did you go about doing the RSVP for certain people? Most of my guest list can do it on online or phone but for some they are either older or I have certain guests that I need to be clear about how many and who exactly is invited.

View Quoted Comment I had different enclosure cards for each group. The online group just got a details card that said “hey go to our wedding website and RSVP and other info” (but more eloquently). The other group got a standard RSVP card and accommodations card.

View Quoted Comment Do I have to include like the mail it back accommodations if I’m just putting in like a RSVP card as a way to be clear to certain people who’s invited? Like his family is very toxic (FH) and we only talk to his brother and his brother knows how to use the Internet and phone fine and his girlfriend and two kids are invited and we wanna make sure it’s clear that it’s them invited and not his mom and sister instead of the two kids or I have some families where only like two people have been invited for one reason or another and they may not be clear on who’s included or not. I don’t wanna be rude and tell them like it’s only so and so and not so and so unless they ask questions so I’d rather make that clear from the start for some people but most don’t really need any kinda RSVP card and those who do to be clear about who’s invited know how to RSVP through the phone or website which will be on the invitations itself so they can RSVP online or phone or whatever. I just don’t like conflict or having to call someone and be like so and so isn’t invited because it’s awkward!

View Quoted Comment I addressed the invites to exactly who was invited (so Mr. & Mrs. Name or Ms. Name & Guest). On the RSVP card I put how many seats were reserved for them online RSVPs could only RSVP for the names I included.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I planned on trying to do most them on the envelope and yes my RSVP is restricted to only peoples who’s name I’ve added. So that way they can’t try to RSVP for someone who isn’t invited.