digieverafter
Savvy May 2020

rsvp on Wedding Website, yes or no?

digieverafter, on January 18, 2019 at 8:51 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15
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I was thinking about not sending RSVP cards with an invitation and instead writing "please rsvp on our website". I want to save on postage + paper! Is that tacky? I'm afraid the guests who are older will think so, since it isn't "normal".

Also, for anyone who has done this, can your guests search names of other guests? That is one thing that worries me!! That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen, ha!

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Latest activity by Kristen, on January 18, 2019 at 4:17 PM
  • T
    Super June 2019
    Tiffany ·
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    I am doing just this. I don’t know but I don’t think guests can search each other. We’re using Zola.
    For the few that aren’t computer savvy we will have traditional rsvp cards but it won’t be many. I live in a tech friendly progressive area, if you don’t I’d ask around to be sure. But I’m understanding that people are very used to this as the norm nowadays.
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  • Laura
    Dedicated June 2019
    Laura ·
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    I'm doing online rsvp's! Its a money saver and seems to be like an easier option for my guests. A majority of my guests are computer using age and the very few that aren't are close family who can pass the word on easily.

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  • digieverafter
    Savvy May 2020
    digieverafter ·
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    That's exactly what we were thinking, RSVP cards for the grandparents, etc. Most people are tech savvy anyway. I'm glad others are doing this as well!

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    Dedicated February 2019
    Anna ·
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    We did online RSVP only through our website on The Knot and it worked out perfectly fine. I guess technically if someone knew someone else who was invited, yes they could look up someone else's name but I don't really see why they'd actually want to. Everyone who actually RSVPd did it on the website just fine. We had a couple people we had to follow up with that told us via text or phone and we just updated it ourselves.

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  • Megan
    VIP January 2019
    Megan ·
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    I did online RSVPs and it worked great. I just called our older guests and did it for them.

    I'm not sure I understand your question about guests searching for other names? What do you mean?


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  • Jen
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    Jen ·
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    I did online RSVP and it worked out great. I included a phone number for people who weren't comfortable with the online thing and really I think only 1-2 used the phone. I had a lot of guests in their 60s/70s too! Mine was done through Minted so guests couldn't see other guests when they RSVP'd but if they share the same last name with someone and say just typed in "Smith" a Smith invite would show up.... it is wasn't theirs (Based on first name) then they clicked a button that indicated it wasn't them and another Smith invite showed up.

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  • Phoebe
    Savvy February 2019
    Phoebe ·
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    If you have older guests, I would just stick to good ol' fashion paper RSVPs. I did online invites for the dinner rehearsal - and it was fabulous!

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  • digieverafter
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    digieverafter ·
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    How I understood it is you write the guest list on here, and then when a guest RSVP's they type in their name and it'll show up if they are invited? Let me know if I'm wrong lol! I haven't done it yet!

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  • Kelly
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    Kelly ·
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    We did online RSVPs thru our website on Minted and it worked great. They can type in anyone’s name if they really wanted but we had no issues.
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  • Victoria
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    Victoria ·
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    We did online only RSVPs and it worked out really well, even for our older guests.

    We included a separate small card in our invitation that was titled RSVP and directed our guests to our website to RSVP and for other details.
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  • Kristen
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    Kristen ·
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    We sent RSVP cards but also gave guests the option to RSVP online. Only 1 person did it online and another couple said they tried to but it didn't work.
    I definitely thought I'd get more online RSVPs than I did. For us, cards were the way to go


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  • Bailey
    Super March 2019
    Bailey ·
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    I just sent out invites yesterday so people obviously haven’t gotten them, but we are doing RSVPs through our website or text. Typically when you send paper RSVPs and give the online option, people do the paper.
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  • Maria
    Super October 2019
    Maria ·
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    I plan on doing online only RSVPs. My oldest guest is my grandma (mid-80's) and she is on FB and websites all day so I feel like she won't have any problem figuring it out!One problem I've run into with the WW wedding website is that all guests that share a last name show up when you type in a first and last name. (Ex: Type in "John Doe" and all aunts/uncles/cousins etc. with last name "Doe" are visible.) This is a problem for me since I have over 100 guests with the same last name!I would try some of the other sites mentioned - The Knot, Zola, Minted, etc. and play around to see which you like the best.


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  • MD
    Super July 2019
    MD ·
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    We're doing online RSVPs. We just sent out our Save the Dates on Monday, and we've already had 2 families RSVP so that was exciting! (I know we could have disabled this until after the wedding, but I didn't see the point). The only person I can think of that doesn't use a computer is my grandma, but she lives down the street from me so I'm not too worried about getting her response.

    The only thing I was hesitant on was the fact that guests can potentially search the names of others, but I figured they're going to eventually figure out who was invited when they show up to the wedding anyways so who cares?

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  • Kristen
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    Kristen ·
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    I'm doing it through The Knot. I have known a few people who did it on there, but not on WW. They all said it worked fine other than a couple of elderly relatives who couldn't figure it out. I'd also allow them the option to call and RSVP if you're having a smaller wedding. I'll be putting mine and FHs cell numbers on the RSVP page on our website.

    I'm also doing it for saving $$ and because we're trying to have as eco-friendly of a wedding as we can manage.

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