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rsvp on invitations

mrswinteriscoming, on February 3, 2020 at 6:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Hi all

We are doing our invitations ourselves to save some money. I have found beautiful templates and done a printed demo of them and the quality is fantastic, however we are making some final changes before ordering the invites.

I ordinarily had an RSVP card prepared to go out. They simply instructed people to respond by a date to either mine or my fiance's numbers or my email. I do not want to go via the route of having RSVPs posted because realistically no one uses mail anymore (nor will anyone bother compared to just making a phone call) and it's a waste of money.

Everyone who is invited knows us personally (or our parents) so I am thinking to just write 'Please RSVP by [date]' on the bottom of the actual invite itself, since everyone knows how to get through to us anyway. Thoughts on this?

I just don't know if I can justify an extra $100-200 on RSVP cards when people have our details and we will still be chasing for RSVPs anyway.

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Latest activity by Kaysey, on February 4, 2020 at 11:58 AM

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Jordan · on February 3, 2020 at 6:49 PM
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I would maybe put along with the date for the RSVPS something along the lines of RSVP to Jane doe or FH. So they see that they need to contact you directly. Just less room for error on how to return the RSVPS.
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Mcskipper · on February 3, 2020 at 7:01 PM
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You might not need a separate card, but you definitely do need to include the HOW part of rsvp , be it phone numbers or an email. It’s hard to get people to rsvp, so it’s important to hold their hands a little. Sure they *should* know how to get in touch with you, but I promise if you just have “rsvp by date” and not “rsvp by date to ##” you’ll get people not rsvping bc they weren’t sure how 🤣
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Kelly · on February 3, 2020 at 7:44 PM
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I don’t think it’s worth the money - as a guest, I’d much rather RSVP online than through the mail. I sent my Save the Dates as postcards because I wasn’t about to spend an extra $100 on an envelope that was getting ripped up for an informal invitation (I will for my actual invitations). Just make sure you’re clear on how to RSVP
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Hannah · on February 3, 2020 at 7:48 PM
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I think not doing mail back RSVPs is fine. However, depending on how many guests you are inviting, I would stick with email or the online RSVPs through weddingwire/the knot. You don't want peippe RSVPing to multiple people (let's say your mom forgets to tell you that so and so is coming) or someone calls you while you're out and tells you their coming and you get home and completely forget to mark them down as attending. It will solve a lot of headaches if you have them digitally RSVP to 1 place so the records are kept together.
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Sherry · on February 4, 2020 at 10:58 AM
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We set up a wedding email and had our RSVP's go there.
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Kaysey · on February 4, 2020 at 11:58 AM
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I would specify one or two people on the RSVP. That way, you don't have to communicate with multiple people to find out who is coming and if they're bringing someone. By making the RSVP contact one or two people, it'll be easier to monitor the responses.
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