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Just Said Yes August 2019

rsvp Oh No!!

Annette, on July 30, 2019 at 2:20 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 7

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We both have very large families and we have very small pocketbooks. The venue we were given as a gift is sort of small and the caterer really gave us a fantastic discount. My dilemma is, most of the people RSVPed but we still have some out. We are counting our RSVP to see how much we must pay the caterer. Not trying to be mean but how do we keep the ones who did not RSVP out until dinner is over?

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Latest activity by Cristy, on July 30, 2019 at 5:49 PM

Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 30, 2019 at 2:27 PM
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You should be following up with anyone who didn’t rsvp by your deadline and say “hi we never received your rsvp for the wedding. We need your answer by x date or we’ll have to mark you as a no”.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on July 30, 2019 at 2:30 PM
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You need to follow up with people who didn't RSVP so that you can get a final headcount.
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Master June 2019
Danielle · on July 30, 2019 at 3:41 PM
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Follow ups are done a few days after the RSVP deadline you put on the invitation. This gives the stragglers a few days to come in. I split our non-responders up: gave my family to my mom, my husband's family to his mom, my husband got his friends, and I took care of my friends. We all followed up and got their "yes" or "no" responses. You can simply reach out and say something like "Hey there, hope all is well. I just wanted to reach out, because our RSVP date has passed, and we did not receive yours. Do you happen to know if you will be able to make it or regretfully decline? Look forward to hearing from you soon, thank you!"
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on July 30, 2019 at 4:22 PM
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Definitely follow up with stragglers. Let them know you need to give the caterer final numbers!
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on July 30, 2019 at 4:26 PM
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Unfortunately people are so bad now a days with rsvp'ing you'll have to follow up. I had some never respond so I kind of just took that silence as a no
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Devoted August 2019
Kelsie · on July 30, 2019 at 4:29 PM
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May be wrong, but are you asking how to not let the guests who have not sent back an RSVP come into your reception until after dinner? You should really follow up and ensure you have an accurate final count. Even if your venue was a gift, you should have only invited an amount that you can accommodate - as far as room and money.
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Master May 2021
Cristy · on July 30, 2019 at 5:49 PM
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Yeah, agree with others here. You can't just count the non-responders as "not coming" because what if some of them did send their card back, as a "yes" and it got lost in the mail? What if your invitation got lost in the mail, and they never received it. You'll feel awful if someone you invited had sent back the card, but because you didn't get it, you're barring them from the reception, wouldn't you?
You invited these people. It's your responsibility to follow up and confirm whether or not they are coming. You can't just assume, because you haven't received their response yet.
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