rsvp no-shows

I have been following up with people. I have 5 more days until the rsvp deadline. I have it on my website and have noticed some people thought they rsvpd but didn't do it correctly so I helped them out.

Also I keep getting told by family members they will be coming but still havent marked themselves as showing up. I'm going to text/call them again just to ask if they want me to rsvp for them on the website.

I would contact guests who haven't responded at all maybe a day or two after the deadline. Some people postmark their RSVPs on the deadline. Don't assume that just because you do not receive a RSVP that the person isn't planning attend. I already had three couples tell me they lost their RSVPs cards and they told me through text or Facebook that they are coming and what their entree choices are. Also, some people forgot completely about the deadline.

I would follow up with everyone.

I agree with the PPs, Elizabeth. You should follow up with everyone you don't get a response from by your RSVP date. I know I'm a super forgetful person and my best friend texted me when I forgot to RSVP to her wedding. I knew I was coming but she didn't and I wouldn't have had a seat at dinner if she hadn't texted me!

I would still give them until your deadline and then maybe the weekend after that, you, your FS, and your parents or some of your wedding party can divide and conquer those whose responses you haven't gotten. Give them each a call and see what's up. Good luck!!

Our deadline is Sept. 15th and I am still missing about 15-20 people, including some in the wedding party!! (LOL) I've decided to wait a couple of days after the deadline and then contact each person individually, but it's extremely annoying waiting for people to send a simple card with a pre-stamped envelope in the mail! I don't want to assume the no-responses are declines, though, because I already had one person tell me they never got an invitation so some may have gotten lost in the mail. Still really frustrating, especially since the time is getting close!!

Update: I had my mom and my FMILs follow up with the appropriate people from their family. FH & I followed up with the one or two friends who forgot to RSVP. Overall that seemed to work pretty well, they were happy to help, and it made it less awkward for me since I was afraid I would get a little snippy. Almost everyone at a minimum verbally confirmed yes or no, and if they had dietary restrictions, which was enough for me (and some physical RSVPs followed later)

However, we are STILL (even after personal follow up) SEVEN PEOPLE SHORT WHO REFUSE TO COMMIT YES OR NO. Practicing deep breathing and excessive eyerolling. sigh.

No, unfortunately. You'd think people would know if they didn't respond to an invite they aren't supposed to show up but that's not how it goes these days. People have no boundaries and no sense of right or wrong.

I still have 52 out of 96 that have yet to RSVP to mine and we are a week away from the deadline. And except 4 of those all live across the country so I would hope by now you would know whether you are coming or not. I have a pretty good idea who is coming just from hear say but I do not know why people think you should just know whether they are coming or not. I agree that it is very frustrating when you put a stamp on the rsvp's. I really hope I do not have to contact every one of these people