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Neeva
Rockstar September 2020

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Neeva, on January 23, 2020 at 8:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 25
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Guys people are so bold.

Addressed the invitation to Mrs. & Mrs. Blank. Online RSVP- so when they type in their name it says a max guest count of 2. They RSVP for 2. Then in the food selection they select a meal choice for the both of them and then a third person (their child).

I am laughing but also what the ?!

They are my mom's friend so she is in charge of telling them she is not invited.

Anyone have something this crazy happen?

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    This is why when brides ask how to word a no kid wedding I say just be up front and say adults only because people will try that mess. I feel in some situations be it bad etiquette just be transparent lol. I cannot believe people try that mess but sadly they do.

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  • Neeva
    Rockstar September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    Yeah I don't know them so really my mom has to handle it and talk to them. I could not have been more obvious about it (I thought) on the RSVP & addressed it just to the couple, but telling people upfront in person is probably best.

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
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    I think some people feel that kids can sit on their lap or that they are already included. I feel it is the whole ask for forgiveness mindset or they are playing dumb. Yup...let the mom handle ha ha.

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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    I’m surprised that they were even able to select a third meal choice for only two guests.
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  • M
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    I received an RSVP with “Bringing Daughter and Grandson” ✍️ on it.
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  • Neeva
    Rockstar September 2020
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    Yeah I couldn't figure out how to get a menu drop down for each guest (using Minted) so I had to have guests free type the menu selection part so they wrote it there

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  • Neeva
    Rockstar September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    That's crazy!

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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Oh, I see! 😬
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2021
    Chrysta ·
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    What?! People are so rude! 🤦🏼‍♀️
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2021
    Chrysta ·
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    This is exactly why I disagree when people say to address the “no kids” thing subtly and say that it’s “rude” to put adults only on the invitation. Sorry, but some people just cannot take a hint & need it spelled out for them. Otherwise, you end up with people doing these crazy things! Lol 🤦🏼‍♀️
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  • Allyson
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Allyson ·
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    I am so concerned about seating. Which rsvp websites are y'all using that only let them rsvp the amount of people that you set?
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  • Neeva
    Rockstar September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    I am using Minted
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  • Allyson
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Allyson ·
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    Thank you!!! It let's you set the number so they can only rsvp up to how many you limit them to correct?
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  • K
    Dedicated February 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    That's great! 😂😂 I actually had one of my married into the family aunts extend my invitation to half of her family! I don't even know these people! So yes, definitely had one of those moments!

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  • Neeva
    Rockstar September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    Yup!! You can set it for each invitation
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  • Emily
    Devoted September 2020
    Emily ·
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    My future FIL tried to invite us to a wedding that we are not invited to - telling us "oh yea, well she's my cousin of course you're invited!"


    I was like nahhhh. I told him this is the type of mess he is going to have to address with his own family for our wedding if they try some of that nonsense!
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    People are RIDICULOUS! My mom's half sister, whom we haven't seen or spoken to in 10 years, messaged me a few days ago asking if she could bring her children to the wedding. The STD was very plainly addressed to her and her husband... and I really only invited them as a courtesy. When I told her she could not bring her kids due to facility capacity, she sent multiple messages trying to guilt me into it. I cannot fathom how unbelievably rude some people are.

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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    FYI - The Knot does this too. You put in all the names grouped by household or family, and when they go to RSVP it's basically a checkbox for each person, and no where for them to type in extra names.

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  • Allyson
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Allyson ·
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    Awesome. thank you Sara!
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  • K
    Dedicated October 2019
    KAREN ·
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    Oh girl. yes. We made the call not to invite 2nd cousins. My first cousin has 2 daughters (under 10) and as we decided to stop inviting family after first cousins, we did not invite the daughters, just my cousin and her husband. (mind you, this was 2nd cousins of ALL ages, not just children) The STD and the invitation both said Mr. and Mrs. so and so, not The So and So family. Anywho, my sister thought this was an egregious offense (another story for another time) and told me my cousin didn't get "the hint' and bought her daughters dresses and booked a hotel for her whole family (husband and two kids). When my cousin in a group chat was talking about dealing with her kids that day, I had to awkwardly tell her "well, you won't have to worry because only adults are invited to the wedding other than immediate family, my apologies for any confusion." I immediately got a curt response that they wouldn't be coming then (which I responded in kind that I understood, because my kid is around the same age and we've had to decline many plans due to lack of childcare). Long story short, we're still not really talking and that was over 6 months ago.


    People assume their special snowflake children are of the utmost importance. I have a kid and I don't think that way. We got invited to a wedding last year and guess what? It said Mr and Mrs so we automatically went "Yes, date night without the kid!" not "Guess we need to get junior a tux!"

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