RSVP - Late/Missing/No Response

I just snatched this from @Kate- "Hi ___! We didn't get your RSVP and want to know if you'll be coming to the wedding. We need to turn our final numbers in soon so if we don't hear from you by ___ unfortunately we'll need to mark you as a "no."

She always gives great advice so I will pass it along to you.

I just texted everyone or asked a family member who could easily get in touch with the extended members who chose not to send theirs in.

@Kate- Haha...I saved the wrong one. Damn.

If you heard through the grapevine that people aren't coming, but you still want to follow up, just say so. "I heard you may not be able to make it but I wanted to double check - I'd hate to not have a seat for you in case your plans have changed."

Screenshot that suggested wording. Thanks!

We had 90 no responses on our due date. I had my mom touch base with my family, FMIL reach out to her side of the family and we contacted all of our friends. We got all of our answers and it was the best feeling in the world lol. But we waited three days after the due date if people dropped stuff in the mail the day of.

Just call or text, some may be lost in the mail

We had two get lost in the mail..thankfully they were close friends (who had received the save the date) so they were just a bit confused when we texted about RSVP's (they had both said they were coming at the STD point, but we weren't sure about their sigs)

"I'm contacting you because we are past our rsvp date and our caterer needs final numbers. If you are unable to confirm within the next 24 hours we will have to consider you a "no" and will miss you at the wedding"

Our RSVP deadline was last Saturday. Of course a week out we had a little less than 50% confirm their attendance. FH sent his side a very direct almost borderline rude (I told him he better not reach out to my folks like that LOL) message/ calls where as I reached out to my side in a very polite and professional manner. His side responded with a quickness. My side... well every body literately waited until the last day and I even had folks from my side "try" to RSVP 2 days after the deadline. I was so annoyed and had to firmly tell my parents we cannot accept anymore since we already sent in our headcount to the vendors. I was good with the minimal numbers (b/c of course it would save us money) but knew that people like to act brand new and show up anyway (they would be the main ones complaining about there not being enough food and such). Just venting and ranting to all of those ladies approaching their deadlines. Just make sure reiterate that the venue/ caterer needs the head count. My FH bluntly told them that they won't have a seat or a plate of food. They RSVP'd with a quickness but I don't suggest doing this obviously LOL.