rsvp Issues

I would give it 3-5 days past your RSVP date before you begin contacting your guests. A lot of people will drop their cards in the mail on the deadline date, so then you are at the mercy of the USPS. We got a good chunk of our RSVP's back the week of the deadline. So I think you will find a lot come in this weekend.

Unfortunately, with the hotel room blocks, it is not your responsibility to stay on top of people to book their rooms. You sent out your invitations on time, and I am assuming you let your guests know the room block cut off date? They are adults and should be responsible enough to book their room on time. I would just worry about getting your RSVP's in so you can get your headcount to your caterer (or whoever).

We contacted people the day following our RSVP date. Some brides say to wait because they could be in the mail, but none were in the mail and I knew it (confirmed a week later when none arrived). We texted everyone who hadn't RSVPed.

Lots of people drop the RSVP in the mail on the deadline, so i'd probably not follow up with people until another week goes by.

I am not a people chaser. I know there is a handful of my friends that just suck at RSVPing to anything so I just count them as an automatic yes. The rest? Well, I have a warning in my invites (I'm NOT traditional so its no big thing in my circles) that if they don't RSVP but still plan on showing up that's fine-but they better bring their own chair, food, and beverage...

If people can't be courteous enough to RSVP in the time frame given, then I'm not going to be courteous enough to just plan for them to be there just in case or to spend all of my time trying to track down their RSVP when it already has their name on it....they just have to check yes or no....

But....I'm in the minority...I know this.

I sent out 75 invites with RSVP's cards that were addressed AND stamped to make it easy. Of those 75 I got 7 back, SEVEN...then two days after the wedding I got one back as a yes with no name of who it was that was coming. It was my BIGGEST frustration in wedding planning. I'm just glad I created a Facebok event page so I had some idea at least. I did the best I could with counting guests.

A lot of people don't feel the need to RSVP, when I was a week away from my deadline I sent out texts to my friends and family saying hey guys please send them or at this point just let me know whether or not you're coming. Lol, I wanted to keep my rsvp cards because many of our guests wrote notes, some drew small pictures, etc. I would try to guess who's it was based on what they put and then confirm with the numbers I wrote on the back. I just felt better doing this and some family/friends would tell me oh I figured you knew I was coming, lol.

So my RSVP date was 11/12/2019. We are missing responses from about 40 couples, about 80 people. I only had about 4 couples that didn't respond and my mom got in contact with 3 of them. Now I'm waiting for my FHs sister to get in contact with all from his side. I would think that past brides would understand the RSVP thing and get theirs in on time, but unfortunately those are still out there! I don't understand why it is so hard to respond!