rsvp issues

SO frustrating!! I would tell her, unfortunately, you need to know for sure by Monday as you need to make sure you have numbers for catering. If its your best friend, I would think he could make more of an effort than to just say that is his ride.. but if you really want him there you may need to make an exception.

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I told her that and she said she didn't need a place to sit/eat as she just wants to see me get married and she'll be dancing all night anyway. The fact that my best friend is even willing to come up here (He is in Connecticut) is a shocker in itself, I've lived here for 6 years and he's never once visited. I don't want to offend anyone but I also need to have my count finalized so I'm not paying for people who don't show.

Tell her you need to know by Monday if she is coming or not because the venue and caterer need to know and if she said she is not sure tell her she can not attend.

I would stick to you rule with your friend. He can get an Uber, taxi, lyft or ride with someone else if he really wants to be there.

I'm sure someone else attending the wedding would be willing to give your best friend a ride, it just sounds like he's trying to weasel his new girlfriend in. As for your friend waiting to purchase her ticket, I would tell her that you need to know now, end of story.

I would tell the out of town friend that if she doesn't give you a definitely yes, she will not be able to attend. Let her know that dancing all night will not do because the dance floor isn't open all night.

As for the best friend, I'd let him know that his presence will be missed.

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I don't know how to say that without hurting friendships haha. I think that's what I want to say, I just don't want the added drama.

Don’t let people manipulate you into bringing unwanted guests. If they don’t have a ride, there’s Uber. Or they could ask someone to pick them up, because I doubt he doesn’t know anyone else going. As for your out of state friend, is she usually this flakey with traveling? If so, try and wait until the last second before putting in her response. As in, if your final count is due on Monday, tell her that’s when she has to let you know by, otherwise you’re going to put her down as a no. She’s had to have known about your wedding for some time, so she could have gotten her airfare a long time ago before prices went up. Either way, you hands aren’t tied. You have everyone fair opportunity to figure out how they can get to your wedding, it was their decision to wait until last minute to figure things out.

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Unfortunately he doesn't know anyone coming besides my brothers, and one lives here in NH and one is flying in from AZ. I asked my best friend's brother to come (who I grew up with and consider a really close friend) but he is unable to come. So if he can't get a ride my best friend won't come. But everyone has known about this since April (we planned the wedding in 5 months) so there really is no excuse. FH's best friend is being wishy washy too, we received a yes RSVP from him but he neglected to purchase his flight - which is now upwards of 1k. Thank goodness he didn't accept the Best Man position.

Friend #1: you have until Monday to give me a definite answer. If you don't I'm marking you as a "no".

Friend #2: then I guess I'll see you after the wedding.

People need to realize that a wedding is not a BBQ. Messing with the couple's guest list has consequences.

Friend #1: It sounds like she is coming but is just waiting to purchase her flight to try to get a better deal? Or she doesn't want to tell you yes until she knows she can get a better deal on her flight? I'd let her know that unfortunately for you it can't work that way because you have to shell out a lot of money and the venue doesn't care if someone doesn't eat, you have to pay for their meal regardless.

Friend #2: How was he planning to come to your wedding before he started dating his girlfriend? It would depend on how badly I wanted him to be there.