RSVP: Is a month enough time?

It's not so much of an issue of whether one month is enough, because it is, but asking for replies by December is too early for a 2/28 wedding. That's one of the problems with B listing is that it typically has a good intent of wanting to be more inclusive, but it forces the first round to RSVP way too early in order for it to work.

Yeah, for a 2/28 wedding, I'd send the invites right after New Years. They might get lost in the craziness of the holiday cards, and anything earlier is too early, especially with PTO resetting at the beginning of the year.

A month should be enough time for an RSVP. Since you're breaking etiquette with B-list anyway, and most of these people are your friends who understand the situation, would you be willing to call them and ask them to come depending on your decline rate? I know that seems tacky, but so is a B-list, and I don't think you can help it.

Either way, your timelines are WAYYYY too early for a 2/28 wedding.

Way too early. My RSVP date was the 10th of Jan for my wedding a month before yours. You are causing your guests additional difficulties to make a b-list. Re-consider.

That is pretty early. Our RSVP date is Nov. 15th for our Dec. 29th wedding and I felt like it was a bit early (but numbers are needed, etc).

I pretty much have everyone invited that I want invited, but we did over invite so I am anxious so anytime people have asked me about RSVPing (we just sent invites today, but people are eager) I tell them Nov. 15th, but the earlier the better.

Maybe you could have a date in January for RSVPs, but try to spread the word through your parents/family that early responses would be appreciated?

Not to ignore your question, one month is enough time.

Okay. I will go ahead and push the date way back and send invites/call the b-listers. I still want to send them invites though, because they are important to me. I'm frustrated that I am in this situation due to my parent's guest list, but "they pay, they say."

Especially around the holidays, December is way too early for an end-of-February wedding. Our RSVP date is October 17, less than a month beforehand.

Is there anywhere you can make more room in the budget to invite everyone you want? Cancel upgrades? Or talk to your parents about your situation...my parents were very reasonable in paying for their extra guests so that we could still invite the people WE actually want there.

I'm glad you are pushing the invite date back. 3 or more months out makes it hard for some people to commit to attending. They also may forget or not be as excited. Most people understand space being limited at a wedding, especially if lots of parents' friends are being invited. If you must b-list, be up front about it.

Also, just because I'm curious for how this is working-- do you have everyone on the B list ranked like a waiting list? Like, if you only get 5 declines, do you know which 5 B-listers you're inviting? Something to consider. I doubt the numbers will work out evenly.

I understand your frustration, but I'd skip the B-list altogether and have a house party with your friends after the wedding to simplify everything.

My B-list friends know that we are limited due to my parent's guest list.

Futuremrslav, We only have a few people on the b-list. If the people I assume will not be coming live up to my expectations, we will be able to invite all of them. If not, we may forgo inviting the B-list. But I'm PRETTY sure they won't be coming, so I went ahead and made the B-list. (dad's family from Tennessee, not a lot of money for travel, not close to me at all)

My wedding the same day Feb 28 !!! D Im sending the invites this week and the dead line is dec 31. think it perfectly fine if you have a destination wedding. it depends, I read in the other article this following

Because destination weddings require arranging flights and accommodations, there's a different RSVP timeline. RSVPs should be due two months before the wedding, and the wedding invitations should be sent out approximately four months before the wedding. This will give guests ample time to make travel plans if they didn't when they first received your save-the-date.

With a destination wedding, you'll be glad you have an early RSVP deadline because then you'll have plenty of buffer time to make sure every guest is accounted for, as well as get a sense of when people will be arriving and departing so you can plan pre- and post-wedding events accordingly.

Good Luck!!