rsvp Info

We attended a wedding recently where in the FAQ on their website, it said "Can I bring a guest?" The answer below noted that if you have guest written on your invitation, then yes, and otherwise they wouldn't be able to accommodate them.

I don't think it's necessary. We haven't had this problem at all. We didn't do any "+1s" period. We just invited spouses and significant others by their name and addressed the envelopes to exactly who is invited. So every person RSVPs for themselves. Our RSVP cards said "___ out of ___ attending" and had an option to RSVP online. The online sale didn't have anyway to add an additional person, it just had every guest by their first and last name. We've only had one person ask to bring a guest, and it was a groomsmen which we planned on anyway.

I don't think people just bring plus one's to weddings who weren't designated one without ever asking first. If the website is cut and dry about just having their names and no additional guest, then that is what it is. Since you have a wedding website you can put in your FAQ "can I bring a guest or plus one?" The response would be "no, we invited our nearest & dearest friends and family and have allotted all our space".

Actually, they do, more often than you'd think. I was raised to find that incredibly rude, and would never just show up with an uninvited guest. But the more I read on this topic, the more I'm finding that in some cultures, RSVPs don't happen (like it's acceptable to ignore the RSVP card), and people often bring 1 or 2 "extras" with them, just because. I was stunned, of course, but for some, this is a normal thing.

So, for planning a wedding, where every dollar counts, and every head costs something, it's so important to address this, either on your wedding website, or with your guests directly, if they try to RSVP for more than the invited guests.

If this happens at my wedding I'd literally be like who are you? and send them home. I wouldn't even care if I offended the person we actually invited, they can go too if they wanted to be so rude! At least thankfully in our circle everyone always asks if it's okay if so & so comes for group settings, so it's definitely not much of an issue. This isn't just some bonfire, 4th of july party, or graduation party lol. Weddings obviously cost a significant amount more so you would think people have more couth!