RSVP help

Take down the RSVP option. We also did a page on the knot and put the RSVP info on the invitations. As for the people who RSVP'D give them a call and let them know while you appreciate their excitement due to space or budget or whatever unfortunately you can't invite everyone you would like to and let them know who in their household is invited. You can also put the age restrictions on the website.

Yep definitely remove the RSVP page until formal invites are sent! But get in touch with those who have already responded to let them you you made an error having it up early and inform them of whatever restrictions you have for your guest list nicely

I'm confused. Are you inviting children or not? Because you said it isn't an adult only wedding?

Anyways, take down the rsvp option and inform them that they'll be able to officially rsvp once the invitations come in.

You need to disable the RSVP function, pronto.

Remove the rsvp option and send rsvp cards with your invitations. Address the invitation to the specific people you want to invite (ex. Mr. & Mrs. So and so) and on the rsvp card is where you can specify how many people.

I did the same thing and got early RSVPs which were fine with me. But no one RSVP'd for people who were not invited. They only RSVP'd for themselves.

As for being ABLE to RSVP for others, I assume you did not put their names on the options so that means people are just adding names to some form of comments or note.

Politely respond to them that those who they have added were not planned to be invited.

Also as for the children/plus 1's, your STD should have been addressed like an invitation: X and Y + family or just X + Y etc. Although I did get an email back from a friend who asked if his kids were invited even though my STD strictly said "... and family".

@MTMA I think OP is saying that people are RSVPing for a bunch of kids that she didn't intend to invite, which would consume the guest list with kids. Probably inviting in circles.

Disable the RSVP option for now. I put our wedding website on the STDs and apparently no one noticed it. For those who have RSVP'd, contact them and explain that was just the STD, and formal invites will be coming. You could also tell them that the extras they invited will not be invited, or you can hope that they will catch the hint when they receive the specifically addressed invite. I don't know about TK's wedding websites, but on WW you can put specific names, and ONLY those people can RSVP. There is no adding extra people.

We didn't "enable" our RSVP page, until the invitations were mailed. However, we had to input the names of the guests who were invited, into the RSVP function, and I'm pretty sure it was impossible to add guests. We used theKnot.

Definitely take down the RSVP function for now, and reach out to every guest who RSVPed for additional uninvited guests to let them know that "due to budget / venue restrictions, were are unable to accommodate additional guests".

What wedding website are you using for RSVPs? WeddingWire's function is built so that you can not add guests as you RSVP, only the individuals listed on the bride and groom's guest list can RSVP!

I'm confused how people are able to add others. We are usingthe RSVP function on theknot and it asks for your name, once you enter that it shows you the number of people in your party that you are able to rsvp for.

I would take down the rsvp and change it so guests can't add extra people.

On the knot you can upload your guest list and people can search for their name to RSVP. I'm not turning on the RSVP option until I send out invitations. Definitely take that option off right away.

If you are using the knot.com, you can upload every name on your guest list (including plus ones) and you have the option to turn on "secure rsvp." Which essentially prevents anyone NOT on your uploaded guest list from RSVPing, and prevents someone from adding a person to their party. It's under weddingwebsite > rsvp

I discovered it after a girlfriend of mine ran into the same issue on her wedding website, but it was because this function was turned off and allowed people to "write in" additional members of their party.

Hope that helps!

-Adela