rsvp help?

If you want to go through the work, I think it would be fine to fill them in yourself.

I would just fill out the second part of the "___ of ___ guests attending" with a 1 so that they know it is just themselves invited. You could also fill out the name but it just seems like extra work that wouldn't be totally necessary.

If you have the time to do it, then I would fill them out. This way it is clear and there is no confusion. This way you do not have anyone calling you and asking either.

View Quoted Comment I’ve got some time, I think I should I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t being rude. Thank you!

My only question here is what if only 1 of 2 guests are attending.
How will you know which person is attending?
Not sure if that matters or not.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good point! so if I leave it open for them to put in their names that might come in handy to know which one will come.

My recommendation is always not to fill in names for the specific reason that if only one person of a couple can come, you need to know who it is. But, I’ve realized, another thing that came up in my name line was corrections 🙈. I was SO thorough I double checked with anyone I could and yet low and behold, my mother in law was wrong and her recently married niece had absolutely NOT taken her her husband’s last name, and an old family friend, turned out her last name was also different from her husband’s. Whoops. They filled in their name lines accordingly, thankfully, and I was able to correctly label my escort cards. I also found it helpful when doing escort cards as I could simply copy their names as they preferred (we had one family who goes by a family name socially but legally both parents have their original names, and I wasn’t certainly how they’d prefer it in a formal setting. So to be able to copy their names as they’d given them was quite helpful to
me!

View Quoted Comment Another totally valid point! I suppose I should leave the name portion open, if anyone puts an extra person in I guess I can just contact them to let them know the situation. Thanks for sharing! Super helpful!

(Err actually I think it was opposite with the old family friend, my mom assured me she had NOT changed her name [and the Internet white pages search confirmed !] so I addressed it to mr x and Mrs y and she responded for mr & Mrs x. ...may just be a social preference but I absolutely wanted to respect that when it came to my seating chart!)

View Quoted Comment Haha after some of the horror stories I’ve read on here if a guest was determined to bring an uninvited guest a name wouldn’t stop them lol— I’ve heard of people crossing things out and changing them 😳. Didn’t happen with my guests though! In fact, for what it’s worth, we did the __ of __ attending and everyone respected it and didn’t try to add anyone (except for the one friend who changed __ out of _1_ to 50 out of 100 hahah but, of course that one was a joke). Actually we had one person ask for a plus one and it was in that moment I realized I had mailed her invite without filling in that line!! We had hesitated because we weren’t sure if we should give her a guest or not (we only gave plus ones to singles who would be traveling alone and wouldn’t know anyone— she was our special case: she DID have a couple people there that she was super close to...but they were friends of her ex, who would also be there. But, she was also friends with our other friend group and knows everyone and is invited to events with the group, just not *as* close. Do we make a special exception for her ?!) so there was much debate. We settled on an answer (no) and mailed out the card . Only, I didn’t aftually fill it in before dropping it in the mail. OOPS. Then she asked. And I was like “I don’t know if she’s asking because she wants to bring someone or asking because it’s unclear!!!” Anyway when she asked we decided to tell her yes, but, she ultimately decided against it anyway, and replied only for 1.

We pre-filled and haven't had any issues yet other than my aunt adding her 18 year old son who we TOTALLY forgot about (our bad). Given the strictness of your situation, cover all of your bases.

We did __ of ___ and filled out the second line, but left the name line open. No one so far has filled it out with an extra person or anything.