rsvp help

If you’re addressing the invitations & RSVP cards to particular individuals, I don’t think you need to specify. Maybe include something on the wedding website for clarity

View Quoted Comment We do have something on our wedding website, but my concern is I'm not sure if many people will look at it

View Quoted Comment I see. I’ve always thought putting something like that on your wedding invitations & rsvp’s is classless and tacky. We simply addressed everything to “Mr. & Mrs. Smith” or “John Smith & Rebecca Downs”. When we wanted the entire family to come, we addressed it as “The Snyder Family”.


A few of of my girlfriends also had really terrible experiences with their rsvp’s. They had guests send back “3 seats reserved in your honor” when there were only 2 invited. So to prevent that, we went through each RSVP card and specified the number of guests that were invited per invitation. Hopefully that helps!

I had a friend put __ of __ adults attending on her RSVP card and it worked well. Usually infants that rely on their mother for food are exceptions to the no children rule though. Not sure if you have any guests that will have young babies at that time.

The only kids we invited were our nieces/nephews and cousins (ages range from 5-18) only because we know their parents will be there and won’t be our responsibility. We made it clear on invitations and RSVP cards with personalization of individual guests that are invited.

View Quoted Comment Do you by chance remember what you put?

My husband's family to that point had always had dayti e, informal weddings with receptions in their parish Hall, or a nearby wedding palace, every kid invited. Usually 4-8 kids per 2 adults for more than half of the parties invited. We were the first in his family to pay for our own wedding entirely. In our first year after grad school, poor.
So his mom suggested we list every person on the card.
Mr James Wilson. Will/ will not attend.Ms. Jean Wilson. Will/ will not attend.No other guests. ( Written under the last name .People got it. No questions even. We could not afford 167 extras, age 1-15. But we still had a few wacko responses from people who said 2 were coming, and wanted 3 or 4 meals, in the comment section. And when I called to ask, they wanted 2 meals per person, cause they like to eat a lot. At catered formal dinner pricing in NY?No matter how clear you are, some people will mess you up. But I still agree with the old guidance that you say who you will invite, not who you won't,( no children) on invitations. We did say on an insert, since many of you will need babysitters for your children, while you attend our all adult night time wedding , blah blah.